j.carsey Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 I really don't know what to make of all this, I broke up with my girlfriend 9 months ago and had not even seen her for the last 6 months although we have talked on the phone in the past month. We both had a spontaneous interest in meeting up again to say hi. We even told each other we've been casually dating and sleeping with other people as recently as last week but it didn't seem to dampen what was, apparently, bound to happen - which was spending a couple nights together. Only two days. Neither of us are seriously attached to anyone else. She told me she still loves me. I told her that while I missed her, I do NOT feel the same way about her any more and am working on getting over her. I told her I have started dating others and will keep doing that, and will not go back to her. To this she said she doesn't care, she still would be happy to at least see me. Normally in this situation I would refuse any contact. But she was only in the city for a couple days and was about to move very far away to start a new (and terrifying) job. She was awfully lonely, her family was away and her friends were all giving her a hard time for "abandoning" them. I can just imagine how if I was in her shoes I would feel utterly terrible and lonely, and she begged to spend some time with me. I know that I did (still do?) provide some of the best emotional support in her life. Anyway she was so happy to hang out with me even for those couple days, I drove her to the airport in the morning when nobody else in her life was even around and saw her off. She told me, things were so tough for her right now that her one wish was to just hang out together and have fun like old times, even though she knows the situation is messed up. She said she could deal with this, she knows it's a bad idea but what's the harm. now obviously, what's done is done. She said to me, she KNOWS this is not us getting back together. Can I believe her? And is it a mistake for me to keep talking to her, when she phones me seeking emotional support in her new life/job (she will phone, guaranteed). She did say she still loved me and is having trouble shaking it off. Yikes. Obviously I'm nervous about her not letting go, but truth be told I haven't fully let go either and she KNOWS that. It's unspoken, but we can read each other like a book. I really don't want to hurt her or cause her any more pain, maybe I shouldn't have seen her these days
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