nayton Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 Lately my girlfriend has been acting a little different lately. She's been acting sad,worried and depressed. She acts this way because of her ex. She thinks about him and misses him, she even breaks down and crys at times because she thinks about him. She talks to me about her problems that she has with him .. stuff like .. " i miss him " " i want him to know that i still care". Knowing that i'm her boyfriend am all .. hearing that is pretty awkward and weird. I mean ... i don't wanna hear that. I feel like i'm not wanted at times and feel like i'm just HERE. I really like this girl alot but i also want her to be happy with or without me .. i want her to understand what she really wants and what i want for her.. i don't want to be with her if she's always breaking down and talking about her ex. well not always but at random moments and changes the mood and all. Just like today i knew something was wrong and i was speaking to her on the phone .. she seemed really worried or sad about something i asked her if something was wrong. she told me she didn't know .. i knew she was thinking about her ex. i spoke to her about it and told her how i felt about it. i told her that we should go on a break because i wanted to give her some time to think about what she wants and that i want her to be happy. she takes it as i just don't want to be with her... she always tells me that she wants to be with me and tells me she really likes me alot and it makes me feel special in a way.. i hope she understands i got most of my advise and help from people on this website and some understand .. i just want to know if i did the right thing.
crazy_grl Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 Absolutely you did the right thing. There's no way she can be with you if she's not over her ex. If you stay with her, most likely once she's finally over him, she'll be ready to move on to someone else and dump you. That's what a rebound is all about. If you want any chance of being with her, it has to be once she's over the ex.
j.carsey Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 i told her that we should go on a break because i wanted to give her some time to think about what she wants and that i want her to be happy. Very smart!! See my thread "Lingering love", you did the right thing. You should be friendly to her, be there for her but as long as she is talking like this about an ex, she still has feelings for him and that's no good for you. Situation might well change in the future but right now she is thinking about him too much.
jerbear Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 I think you did the right thing to prevent yourself from being a rebound, emtional affair or even a "friend." Since you bought up the issue she has to realize what she wants. By going on a break you did not really push the issue.
Diver012 Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 I definetly think you did the right thing. It takes a lot of strength to stand up and walk away from someone you care for, even when you know its the right thing to do.
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