Guest Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 It almost makes me wish we weren’t friends first. I’m the type of girl that tends to have a lot of guy friends because let’s be honest ladies, we tend to be a bit catty. About 2 months ago I realized that I have feelings for a friend. Me and this guy started hanging out a lot back in March, when we’d get off work, on our days off… and we’d do all types of things, from going to happy hour, watching a movie, to grabbing a late night bite to eat. Things that are strictly platonic. I’ve recently told him how I feel but I don’t think he takes me seriously. Because I felt our friendship was strong and we are comfortable with one another, I would share with him information about guys I had “crushes” on or how my dates went (this was before I told him that I like him). I feel like I almost have to prove to him that my feelings for him are real because of past indiscretions I mentioned to him. I’m by no means a saint but when I’m in a relationship, I’m all in. I’m not a cheater, nor promiscuous. I can tell that he likes me at some level that is more than friends but I feel he thinks he’s just a dime a dozen. I have been in 4 serious relationships so far in my life and it wasn’t until my last boyfriend and I broke up that I actually did the “dating” thing. I think this guy thinks that’s how I always am but I’m not. Lately we've been going out a lot more and talking on the phone for hours. We show one another a certain level of affection that we didn't in the past (hug, kiss goodbye, etc, nothing crazy). But when we talk seriously he'll bring up guys from the past (people I told him i went on dates with, had crushes on, etc) and it almost feels like he uses that against me to argue that I'm not really serious about him. I know there is something there between us but I still feel like he's putting up a wall because he knows of things I've done in the past. So for those willing to help, what do I need to do to prove to him that I am serious? How do I show him that he doesn’t have to be scared about a potential “us”, that I can be the one for him?
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