waitingforlove Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 Hello, If an ex (boyfriend), a dumper, tells his ex that she could call at any time, but then when she calls, he doesn't pick up the phone, what does that mean? The girl has told him that she felt rejected when he wouldn't pick up the phone or when he would hang up on her, but he said, "no I didn't mean to reject you. You have to do something about that." So if the girl doesn't call back, he could easily say that she is being too sensitive .... he could say he just got busy and couldn't pick up the phone .... but if the girl calls back, most likely he won't pick up. Obviously, I'm that girl. I don't understand why, if he doesn't want to talk to me, he can't just tell me directly not to call him again. Why tell me that I could call any time and then not pick up the phone? That's so mean .... it's like closing the door on someone without even saying goodbye ....
j.carsey Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Are you absolutely sure he's avoiding talking to you? Sometimes it can seem like someone is avoiding your phone calls when you're emotionally desperate, and they just happen to be busy or lazy with returning calls. If he's both saying you can call, but also avoiding your calls then that's not cool on his part.
MacGyver Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Being in the emotional state you are in right now cause also be making you jump to conclusions. Just a thought.
spinnelli Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Look, if a person dumps you, you have to take everything they say with a grain of salt. A lot of the "let's be friends", "you can call anytime" blah blah blah is really just them trying to be nice and let you down easy. They know they hurt you and they can't exactly tell you to go away now because that is just mean. No one likes to be mean, even dumpers. That is why a woman will rather give a guy a wrong number than to tell him outright that she's not interested in him, that is just the way people are. He didn't want to deal with confrontation and crying and all that, which is probably why, to soften the blow, he told you to call. He already rejected you by dumping you.
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