Guest Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 Hello. I've been in a relationship for less than three months, and from the beginning I wasn't completely happy. I always had this horrible feeling inside, like a foreboding. The guy I am in the relationship with is very clingy, very dramatic. He has several personality disorders, including the histrionic and narcissistic personality disorders, and tends to be rather borderline. He also hasn't broken up with his old long-distance boyfriend of three months. In fact, he still flirts with him. I tried to end things with him a while ago, but he reacted horribly, taking pills, remarking about the part of him that died... And I didn't even get to the part where I was going to ask to break up. I've become boring to him, however. He doesn't think I love him anymore, and a mutual friend notified me of him saying he couldn't stay with me for a long time, like he planned. Also, that he doesn't want to break up with me because he's afraid of disappointing me. He also flirts with others. I can't end this relationship out of fear of upsetting him, despite him not being terribly into me anymore. If he's going to end it, he had best do it soon; in a few months, I go to college, and I don't want any distractions such as that. Does anyone know what to do about this? He still claims to miss me, to love me and to never want to leave me, but I know he truly thinks otherwise. How can I get him to break up with me? Sounds silly, I know, but it's the safest seeming option.
westernxer Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 How can I get him to break up with me? Be brave and dump him. It's that easy.
Outcast Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 Hello. I've been in a relationship for less than three months, and from the beginning I wasn't completely happy. Why on earth did you get into it at all? If you're too chicken to break up directly, keep finding other things you have to do when he wants to see you or talk to you.
magichands Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 He has several personality disorders?? Do you want to break up with all of them?!
Jadey Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 Tell him it's over! That's not fair to just keep it going or just make him so miserable that he dumps you. Don't be chicken.
Chinook Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 Be brave and dump him. It's that easy. Seconded. Why make life hard for yourself...? If he's a drama king he's never going to break up with you and before you know it, woaaah 10 years have flown out the window.
Guest Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 You're all right. It's foolish of me to wait for things to end as they are. I guess I just don't feel great, especially considering how he's my first boyfriend. As for why I even got into the relationship... I guess you can say it wasn't love, but infatuation. I was blinded by lust, I suppose.
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