waitingforlove Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 Hi everyone, Just wanted to raise a general question: Does anyone think there's some sort of relationship between a person's level of self-confidence and his ability to relate to his partner or to feel compatible with the other person? Some people have suggested to girls: Don't ever date a guy with low self-esteem because it will wear you out, he will feel uncomfortable around you and have difficulty believing that you love him, and ultimately when things get difficult, he might end up putting all the blame on you. Anybody else thinks that's true? All perspectives welcomed, from guys and girls. Thanks in advance!
EnigmaXOXO Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 I wish I could remember who it was, but someone on this forum once said, "Some people require one stroke … while others require hundreds." Sometimes the need for constant affirmation and/or attention is due to low self-esteem; while other times it's the result of a ravenous ego that needs to be constantly fed. With enough practice, it's easy to spot the difference. Either way, if you're not up for the task, it's best to walk away.
dancehead Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 Well I wouldn't say I am as confident as some people but I do ok. Yet when am with a girl who seems to want me to be like a rock, submissive, daft and soppy like they are worried I will leave them, I hate it. Its hard to love a woman like this - I won't convey my best as a person because they won't bring it out of me, so I don't deserve their love either for I have made no effort. I prefer a stronger woman who will not depend on me so much. Someone who I can't easily dominate and takes the lead at times. Maybe this is just me and not typical of all men.
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