boiseguy78 Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 Things are good for me, my life going great. I met a wonderful girl with a broken heart. I really like this girl, and i have on good authority she likes me as well. Unfortunatly her heart is broken. Shes honestly the perfect girl, sweet, funny, beautiful, and true. We are friends first and foremost but at times it seems like more and at times its like she just wants to push me away, but I understand a broken heart, so i just give her what i can and thats understanding and compassion and I hope one day she will let her feelings for me show. And maybe with a little luck and a little divine intervention maybe one day we can be together. My question for you is this.. how does a guy show a girl he is different, and that he is not out to use her or hurt her, how does a guy gain the trust of a girl who has no trust left?
Guest Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 have a talk with her, tell her how much you care for her and love her, and that all guys are not the same. or if you've already done that, then tell her that you'll wait till she's ok, because you love her and if having her means waiting, then you're ready to do that. that might help her see after some time that you really care for her.
Guest Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 your actions will also count. i dont mean buying flowers, but just be there when she needs someone. make her feel more special. the most important thing you can do, is talk.
gfto Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 At the risk of sounding too obvious, ask her on a date. Don't worry about her "broken heart." If she digs you, it'll be fine.
Author boiseguy78 Posted July 8, 2006 Author Posted July 8, 2006 Actually we just had our 5th date, but its different and its not just one day one way and the next another... its like we will be out on a date and one minute we are having great chemistry, even kissing... then the next she will get scared and start pushing me away. Its very confusing, i mean i know she has feelings for me.. when she lets herself anyway. But i never know when its ok to show my feelings or when i need to step away, every date is an emotional rollercoaster... I am just really confused... she honestly when she lets herself show her feelings is the perfect girl, but when she starts pushing me away it hurts a little more each time. I dont want to give up on her, but its getting very hard to take. What should i do?
gfto Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 I am just really confused I'd say 95% of the time, when a man is "confused," the real underlying problem is that she just isn't very interested in him. That being said, we need more specifics. Could you give us an example of her "pushing you away"?
westernxer Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 Her heart is broken because she's pining for the guy who broke it. Why put up with this?
Author boiseguy78 Posted July 8, 2006 Author Posted July 8, 2006 examples of her pushing me away.. ok so we are out on a great date.. we just finished a probly 5 min makeout session.. all of a sudden she pulls away and says she wants to slow down.. i agree because i dont want to force anything on her... then she just gets really quiet.. she says shes sorry shes just thinking about stuff.. i try to keep the conversation going and its like she doesnt even hear me.. then she will start talking about how she likes me alot but she doesnt want to get into a relationship cause shes scared of getting hurt. We talk for a while i assure her that i am not going to force her into anything... then she kisses me again and the whole senario repeats itself we make out she pulls away then goes quiet... I am so confused.. but I make sure its always her that makes the moves cause i dont want to push her... its like i am dating 2 girls
gfto Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 we just finished a probly 5 min makeout session.. all of a sudden she pulls away and says she wants to slow down. She's not that into you. Her interest level in you is in that lukewarm zone where, although she's spending time with you and kissing you, she doesn't really like you as relationship material, and she knows it. she will start talking about how she likes me alot but she doesnt want to get into a relationship cause shes scared of getting hurt. Nonsense. She's just not that interested in you. Next.
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