Maria33 Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 Okay, I did it. This is a followup to a question I had on trying to decide if he was interested in me or not. I just asked him if he wanted to go to a movie with me that I want to see. He said no, sorry, he has to work all weekend. He does have to work Saturday and Sunday. I accept that and I don't feel bad about it. I got the courage to ask and I did. I put myself out there and let him know that I am interested and would like to spend some time with him. The problem is, what now? Do you think he was just using work as an excuse and I should just forget about him now and move on? He didn't say anything like, maybe another time or, give me your number maybe we can go later. I didn't get any comments like that at all. At least now he knows I'm interested and if he is really shy, he won't have to feel like he'll be rejected by me. I'm feeling like I should just pretend nothing happened and keep it friendly, like it has been. But, does this sound like a case of "He's just not that into you"? Please give me your advice on what to do next or if I should do anything. I really thought he would say yes, if nothing at all, just because he's a nice guy. But, if you have to work, you have to work, can't really change that. Should I have done something different? I really tried to make it very simple and I did, I just didn't get the response I was expecting. Rejection really sucks doesn't it? The one good thing is that he didn't hesitate or anything when I asked him. He didn't act like he was fishing for an excuse to use. I did think that was good. Any ideas on where to go from here?
Poboy Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 if you are really intrested , give it another try after somedays , like movies or just some other fun activity... he might have been realy busy and so could not go out with you. next time if he gives an excuse or something , move on
Author Maria33 Posted July 8, 2006 Author Posted July 8, 2006 I'm wondering about something else to do here. I can get his e-mail address and was thinking about sending just a friendly e-mail to him. Is this a good idea? Or would I just be being a pest? I don't want to do that. I just think when you e-mail somebody it's a little easier because you aren't face to face. If you're a shy person, you might be more open to write to someone. If I didn't get a response back, I wouldn't send another one. Help! What should I do?
destination_unknown Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 I reckon the ball is in his court now. I wouldn't email him, sure if you see him and you guys are chatting, chat away friendly to him, but let him come to you if he is going to. Good on you for being brave!
Outcast Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 He didn't say anything like, maybe another time or, give me your number maybe we can go later There's your answer. He didn't show much enthusiasm, it sounds like. Whatever you do, DON'T email him! Assume he's not interested unless he asks you out but I don't think it's going to happen.
obsession Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 Assume he's not interested since you just ask him out. The ball is really in his court now. You know how I know... Because the guy that (I think) likes me calls me quite often. One time, after not seeing each other for a few weeks, he called and asked to meet up even though he was trying to get over a bad cold (as I was) just to meet up. He has been consistent about calling and always seemed eager and genuinely happy to spend time with me. We are not together for a good reason - he has a girlfriend. It's a great to be chased versus chasing the guy, which I've also done. I feel like I put myself out there all the time. He rarely reject my invites, but it's a totally different ballgame when I feel like I have to do most of the work. I'm a traditional kind of gal, so it takes away all the romanticism. There's a big difference.
Author Maria33 Posted July 9, 2006 Author Posted July 9, 2006 You're right, I won't e-mail, that would just be chasing him. I don't want to do that. I want him to be interested and to be able to ask me out now, if he wants to. If he doesn't soon, then I'll know that he just wasn't that into me anyway. I am going to continue being friendly and talking to him. I enjoy that and he seems to also.
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