litfish Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 Hi-- My ex recently returned from a month-long trip out of the country. He and I never officially went into NC, though there was NC for up to a week at a time while he was gone. Any contact that was made was generally made by him and very short (expensive LD). I did send a few e-mails, but none in the last two weeks of his vacation. He called me from his cell phone as soon as he re-entered the country. Apparently he missed me, because he really talked a lot about how he wanted to see me as soon as possible (he actually lives in a different state, which is part of the reason we broke up--in addition to the fact that he would have never committed to me due to differences in our cultural backgrounds). I am just really confused right now. I love him still--I'm glad that it seems as though I'm the one he cares about, because I think he had started dating again before he left on his trip (we have been officially broken up for about 4 mos). But, at the same time, it was just so much easier not to have to think about things when he was gone. He called again today, after just two days since we last spoke, and I just can't re-enter a situation in which I feel bad most of the time because it seems like he cares one minute and doesn't the next. Should I dare believe that a month away from me made him realize that he can't be without me, or is this just a case of nostalgia due to lack of sex for a month?
Guest Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 quite possibly nostalgia, but there is no reason to assume!!! just take it slow and don't get your hopes up, and don't sleep with him because if you do that chances are, you will regret it! make him stick around for a while and that should show you how he is feeling!
Author litfish Posted July 8, 2006 Author Posted July 8, 2006 Yeah, the more I think about it, it is probably nostalgia. He seemed less excited about talking to me when he called today--if he's not acting irritated by me for some reason, he is generally talking about sex. I don't know why he doesn't just keep getting it elsewhere and leave me alone if that is all he cares about from me. He says I'm his best friend and he wants to stay in touch, but I sincerely feel as though he resents me sometimes--doesn't even like me at all. And, we really were very compatible when we were together. In every way. I don't get it. I just wonder if he will care when I quit caring...
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