MsArtful Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 There's this guy I like, but girls flirt with him left, right and centre. I'm not sure if he likes me, but I don't want to become part of the crowd (of girls who are absolutely smitten with him) either way. I don't want to ask him out, because I have to see him near every day and rejection would be humiliating, and I don't want to compromise my integrity by doing all that flirting stuff that the other girls do, How can tell if he likes me, and how can I compete?
magichands Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 Rejection is part of life. Not necessarily humiliating. Instead of thinking, "There's that dude that didn't want to go out with me," what about, "There's that dude that doesn't have a clue about what he's missing out on!!!!" Both equally valid.
Author MsArtful Posted July 7, 2006 Author Posted July 7, 2006 That's a fantastic way of looking at it:) , but I'm waaay too shy to be able to pluck up the courage to ask him out, and being the traditional romantic girl i am, i want him to ask me out.
magichands Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 Maybe you can try the secret admirer approach? Poems and all that. It certainly gives me goosebumps, but I'm ashamed to say that I prefer chocolates.
Author MsArtful Posted July 7, 2006 Author Posted July 7, 2006 LOL! I'll give him a box of chocolates and write him a couple of lymericks then - that'll have to work.
magichands Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 I guess what I'm trying to say is, if you're a romantic, then exercise your creativity. I know that might sound stupid, and somewhat of a different approach to the "in your face" (and perhaps more "natural") flirting, but put your thinking cap on. This reminds me of a movie - Amelie. Maybe watch it for some inspiration.
Author MsArtful Posted July 7, 2006 Author Posted July 7, 2006 Thanks, that sounds good, will do. *salutes*
Maria33 Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 If I can do it, anybody can. Ask out a guy that is. I just told him I wanted to go see a movie and would he like to go with me. He did say no because he has to work but that was okay. Plus, even though he said no, he knows I'm interested and should feel better about asking me out, if he wants to. Just ask him to go to something you want to go to. If he says no, it's not the end of the world. You'll never know if you don't ask. Just keep it simple and friendly. Good luck!!
Stunner Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 Hmmm....I've been in this situation before. It is a great opportunity to sit back and see how he handles this kind of attention from women. Does he eat it up or does he take it in stride? Does he seek validation from all these other women? I would be the 'different' one and not flirt...it sounds like he gets that daily. It might make him wonder, "why doesn't she like me too?" I would just say hello and smile. Be friendly...see what happens.
Author MsArtful Posted July 9, 2006 Author Posted July 9, 2006 Thanks, its great advice - I think I'll stick with the "different one" approach, that way I won't be part of the crowd and can maintain my integrity. I'll be friendly, though I know I wouldn't have the guts to ask him out.
j.carsey Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 Often, when you are interested in a person, it just LOOKS like everyone else is flirting with them. Emotions cloud clear judgement
alfagrl Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 There's this guy I like, but girls flirt with him left, right and centre. I'm not sure if he likes me, but I don't want to become part of the crowd (of girls who are absolutely smitten with him) either way. I don't want to ask him out, because I have to see him near every day and rejection would be humiliating, and I don't want to compromise my integrity by doing all that flirting stuff that the other girls do, How can tell if he likes me, and how can I compete? A girl i worked with had the same problem. She worked along side this guy for months and he never noticed her. My friend watched as bolder girls would flirt with him. well one day another guy friend of mine (who also works there) was talking and I told him of the crush my friend had on this guy. He was friends with him.(she hated me for reveiling her secrete crush) I set up a group thing with the four of us. They hit it off. He thought my friends shyness and low key demenor was refreshing. 4months later were married. NO s***!!! I thought it was a little fast myself but hey... you never know. SO go for it.
Author MsArtful Posted July 13, 2006 Author Posted July 13, 2006 A girl i worked with had the same problem. She worked along side this guy for months and he never noticed her. My friend watched as bolder girls would flirt with him. well one day another guy friend of mine (who also works there) was talking and I told him of the crush my friend had on this guy. He was friends with him.(she hated me for reveiling her secrete crush) I set up a group thing with the four of us. They hit it off. He thought my friends shyness and low key demenor was refreshing. 4months later were married. NO s***!!! I thought it was a little fast myself but hey... you never know. SO go for it. Wow! That's so cool
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