timidity99 Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 I guess this thread is to religious people out there. Would you date someone who is verbally abusive to God? What that means is someone who blasphemes God and takes His name in vain? Or someone who speaks badly of Him and calls Him every filthy name in the book. What if he's only verbally abusive to God but not to anyone else? What if he has a love and hate relationship with God? I got kicked out of church for cursing God out loud during the service. I was angry over the sermon so I said "f*** God!" How important is it for me to respect God in order to get a date? Is it essential?
Driver Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 I am not religious at all, at least not at this point in my life. I do "use the Lord's name in vain." I'll say "God damn it" or "Jesus Christ" out of frustration, and the only thing that makes me feel bad about it is that it is not polite or lady-like to speak that way. I personally would never choose not to date someone if they "use the Lord's name in vain." It really doesn't matter to me; in fact, because I have no religious affiliation, I do not think I could handle dating someone who was a firm believer in God. However...I wouldn't crudely criticize religion or say "f*** God!" in a church. I think this would bother most ladies, but the issue here is not criticizing God, it's just being rude and disrespectful. If I were to hear a guy say that, I wouldn't be offended because he was disrespecting God necessarily; I would be offended because he was just being disrespectful and rude in general. And NO GIRL...NO GIRL...wants to date someone like that. Trust me. If you want to get a date, you do need to "respect" God, just like you would need to respect people and holidays and animals and clothing and anything. Don't make yourself look like an ass. That doesn't mean you have to believe in God. It just means you need to keep your harshness under wraps.
MsArtful Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 I'm not religious, but I think its important in a relationship to respect that persons beliefs, if this persons saying things that make you feel uncomfortable let him/her (gently) know, as they may not realize that the things they are saying are offensive to you.
Walk Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 I would suggest not dating the ultra religous if you "verbally abuse" God. Wouldn't it be more sensible to date someone who has a little closer view of religion and God to you? I won't date the ultra religious. Our views on life are far too different to ever co-exist in the same house.
quankanne Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 nope. I'd hit the floor running, because I do not care to surround myself with such caustic people. as for the taking-his-name-in-vain thing or other general rude behavior ... well, I fixed my husband's boat by guilting him. "I don't believe that just came out of your mouth, because I know your mother was a classy woman and she would have never taught her children such ugly things like that." I've also taught him some Spanish alternatives to expletives, which is funny coming out of a redneck :D :D But, it gets the job done, and no one gets offended easily ...
Outcast Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 What that means is someone who blasphemes God and takes His name in vain? Or someone who speaks badly of Him and calls Him every filthy name in the book. I'd avoid someone like that. A person who thinks 'verbally abusing God' is somehow sane behaviour is not one who's thinking straight IMHO.
alphamale Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 I'd avoid someone like that. A person who thinks 'verbally abusing God' is somehow sane behaviour is not one who's thinking straight IMHO. what about avoiding a God who's been abusing humans for eons?
Outcast Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 God set the wheels in motion and then said 'ok, guys, go to it. I'm hands off now'. We have created our own problems, but being big sucky babies, we don't take responsibility and seek someone to blame.
westernxer Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 What it comes down to is manners. I'm not religious myself, but I'd get turned off to someone who kept cursing God... it shows a negative attitude. Civility and tolerance, please. Even if you don't see eye to eye with your peers.
quankanne Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 being big sucky babies, we don't take responsibility and seek someone to blame. preach on, sister! Civility and tolerance, please. Even if you don't see eye to eye with your peers. yep. It all boils down to respect. Despite your personal beliefs, it's always good to be respectful of others. Otherwise, no one will want to be with you.
a4a Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 I got kicked out of church for cursing God out loud during the service. I was angry over the sermon so I said "f*** God!" ? Interesting and highly abnormal behavior. Is it possible you suffer from some form of Tourettes Syndrome? I would think that having such odd behavior without taking in the "god bashing" into the factor would be enough to limit your dating potential. Do you often blurt out such things? More importantly do you do this blurting often at such highly inappropriate times? Serious issues of anger and lack of control may lay at the source of your problems. I would suggest professional help in this matter ASAP. Judging from your other posts it does not seem that being angry at god is your only problem. Just a symptom. Good luck and god bless ya'.
electric_sheep Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 There are a couple of things that might be going on here: I don't believe in God. The person may not believe in God either, and is overwhelmingly immature and thinks it's funny to push peoples buttons. (not someone I'd date) The person does believe in God, has a very palpable and direct feeling of connection with the Creator, is a bit of a hot head, and just likes to let Him know what they are thinking. I think this later case could be forgiven. Some people like to really get personal with God, and just like people form love/hate relationships with each other, these people may form that kind of a relationship with God. If I did believe in God, this is probably how I'd be ... I'd certainly have a thing or two to tell him, that's for sure.
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