bg1975 Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 Quick background....met girl about 1.5 weeks ago. Out for drinks Sunday night, did things about 5 nights out of seven last week. Kind of made out on Wed...not much, nothing to write home about. Monday she tells me that we need to take it at her pace. Wed. I was lucky cause she was drunk. I say fine. Then she asked me to visit her friends and some family the next day for the fourth. Spend all day with her, introduced to two best friends and grandma and aunt and brother. During the day, is dealing with ex-boyfriend/stalker who come to find out was engaged to after three weeks of dating, and not very much after she was engaged to his best friend before that. Also tells me during the day that she doesn't have much relationship experience. Texts me after we get home and tells me she enjoyed herself and thanked me. Haven't heard from gal in two days. What is the story? Any ideas?
magichands Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 Where are you getting this "juicy" background information on her from? Her "friends?!"
ashnicole Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 I'm not sure what's going on with her, but are you sure you heard this information from a valid source? Don't believe everything you hear, unless it came from her... and even then, you don't know her that well... She made mistakes, who cares? As far as where things stand with her, I couldn't tell you. Send her a text message asking her how she's doing, maybe? Start a casual conversation, don't say anything about "Why haven't you called me" unless she brings it up. Maybe she's waiting on you to spark conversation?
Author bg1975 Posted July 7, 2006 Author Posted July 7, 2006 That information cam from her directly. She told me all of these things. I am just wondering if she might be scared about moving forward and having the same situation again. [sIZE=2] I have sent a text or two, even tried to call yesterday to invite for lunch but I think she changed her number on Tuesday. Probably went into effect on Wed before I tried to contact. I was going to give her until tomorrow to contact her and was thinking about just stopping by her job (part-time in the mall). Need to do shopping anyway. Just don't know if that would come off being stalkerish or not. Okay with her not being interested in me, but there has been just too much sexual tension between us, spent too much time together in a short period of time and then to meet the fam. I just don't understand why she would not contact other than she is freaked out. [/sIZE]
Author bg1975 Posted July 7, 2006 Author Posted July 7, 2006 I should also mentioned that she changed number to get rid of the stalker calling non-stop which started on Monday. Just not sure what I should do....some friends say give it a few days and stop by her work to say hello and find out what happened? Others say, forget it. She will call if interested. I have been through some emotional troubling situations with relationships in the past, so the scared by emotions theory I have I understand. What does everyone think? Would love any advice.
Chinook Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 Um, maybe it's just me but.... She changed her number. She's not been in contact for two days. I reckon she's walked. It may have been because she was having hassle with a stalker but you'd think as soon as she changed that number that she'd give it to you yes...? If she was into you..? Um, I say leave well alone now. If she's into you, she'll contact you. If not, you have done enough running to let her know you're interested. Um, showing up at her job might not earn you brownie points... because that could be construed as showing a little too much interest and bordering on stalking... not the case clearly. Let her come to you if she wants to.
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