jasonlives314 Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Well, this is going to be a bit of a long post, so you guys have all the details. Obviously, the girl of my dreams has just left me. We had a beautiful relationship. We had met about 6 years ago exchanged phone numbers and I called to get a disconnected number, chalked one up to an uninterested girl and moved on. I was wrong. Years later, I wound up working for her Mom at an orthopaedic company, not remembering that's who she was. Her Mom loved me and wound up hooking us up. From the minute we met we just knew it was the real thing, she remembered me from years ago and wanted to know why I avoided her. I told her I thought she gave me a fake number, and she said no her phone just got shut off for 2 days for an unpaid bill. Anyway, we hit it off fantastically, and soon fell in Love. We have been together for about a year, and I couldn't have been happier. We saw each other every day, never got tired of each other's company, got on great with all family and friends, so on. Now come the bad parts. I have a bit of an issue with being ungrateful and negative. Not gonna blame it on the fact I had a rough childhood, whatever...It's my fault for not dealing with it. For the last couple months we've been working different shifts and only seeing each other on the weekends. It was going fine for a while, we missed each other and whatnot, but we dealt. Well, my attitude had gradually took a plunge for whatever reason, and I became a little more cynical about things. I noticed her becoming more and more distant from me, so I tried to deal with it a few weeks ago. I said hey look, we have some issues we need to deal with in our relationship. She got a little upset with me and said I was just being negative still, and she didn't think we had problems. Last weekend we had a bitchfest Friday night, and made up, Saturday morning and made up, then all night Saturday at a 4th of july party she ignored me almost the whole time. I tried to sort things out eith her again Sat. night and tried to get intimate. She rolled over and said I just want to go to sleep. (big red flag) I went home and came back the next morning to find she would again ignore me all day. When I tried to sit next to her she would get up and move. So, I again said, ok we have some problems. We need to talk. She said yes, we do need to talk, and decided to "break things off for a while." I was astounded and heartbroken, We have been talking about getting engaged this fall and getting married next october. Well, knowing what I think I know, I said; there really is no such thing as a temporary break, or needing time and space to yourself for a while,and such, right? I said, basically what you're really telling me is you're done with me. She said, no way and wouldn't let me leave when I tried. I told her to just let me go because she was obviously done with me anyway. She told me straight up that she was not looking at this as more than a temporary thing. I am reluctant even though she assures me that she wants to work things out, but she's just not sure how she feels right now. She wants me to correct these problems, and for her to correct hers so we can get things back on track. She just says that my mood swings and temperment are something that she knows she can't deal with for the rest of her life. I have made a commitment to her and myself that I will never let it happen again. I am in day 4 of no contact, and just need to know what to do. Am I being led on here with false hope? Is she being sincere? And how the hell do I deal with all this?
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