Toni_no12002 Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Hi i have a 18 month old son.I just cant get him to walk.I try enticing him with chocolate or something he likes but he just crawls to it.I know he can walk because some times he takes a few steps then realises that hes not holding on and grabs something. I feel like im a bad mum because most of my friends kids who are about the same age have been walking for months.What am i doing wrong?
mess4u Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Your not a Bad Mom Because your Baby isnt ready to walk!! You wouldnt be concerned if you were. Thats too cute. Moms are so hard on them selves. I like your idea of trying to motivate him with a toy or food. That sounds like a good plan. See if he will hold on to the couch with a hand to come to you. Thats How my Baby started and then she just took off like it was nothing. How does he do in a walker? Some people may say he seems to big for one but it may help him practice with the whole foot in front of other and to find his balance. He will get it dont worry.
dgiirl Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 aww dont feel so bad! I dont think I started walking until I was 1.5 or 2 years old lol It drove my mom nuts. I guess I didnt want to walk anywhere.
Tim'sAngel Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 My son is also 18 months! Has he been to a Pedia check up lately? If so, did he say everything is normal? I think some children just have their own time frame. Is he being held alot? As soon as my son even hinted he could walk on his own, I stopped carrying him just so he would realise he had no choice but to get around on his own. He was about 13 months when he started walking, and he did the same thing your son does, he would start walking on his own, then hurry and grab onto something. I think he is playing games with you. Do you make a big deal when he does take some steps? I would always clap my hands and yell "YAAAAY!!!" and he thought that was fun so he would do it again. I suggest stop carrying him, when you are out, don't carry him hold his hand and let him walk on his own, then start letting go. Is this your first? I get frustrated because my son won't talk!!! He says 3 words and thats it!!
blind_otter Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Is he talking a lot? Babies tend to go in stages, AFAIK. Babies to talk a lot early tend to walk later, and babies walk early tend to be verbal later.
Author Toni_no12002 Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 Thanks,Thats the thing he was in his walker for months and i still try and put him in it now occasionally.Also he will walk when i hold his hand.I know he can do it but he just wont.Its like hes scared or something.What i dont understand is that my friend has a little girl whos a couple of months younger and shes walking.She just runs and bangs into things.She doesnt step over things. My son steps over stuff while holding on the couch but he just wont let go.Its so frustrating.It doesnt help with everyone always saying how long there kids have been walking for.It makes me feel that im not trying.One friend suggested i buy these certain shoes but there expensive.Then she turns around and says that he wont walk because i didnt buy them!I cant win!Surely you dont have to buy expensive shoes to get them to walk?
Tim'sAngel Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Is he talking a lot? Babies tend to go in stages, AFAIK. Babies to talk a lot early tend to walk later, and babies walk early tend to be verbal later. Whew thats comforting... altho I feel like my son started walking later than most Your not a bad mom Toni!! Some babies are just lazy! lol Mine was!! And BTW, my cousin has 4 kids and one on the way... whew... anyways, her last one (a boy) didn't walk till he was like 15 months, and he is perfectly normal. I think for him his brother and sisters would carry him around all the time and dote on him so he never felt the need.
Tim'sAngel Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 .Then she turns around and says that he wont walk because i didnt buy them!I cant win!Surely you dont have to buy expensive shoes to get them to walk? Thats the biggest BS Toni!! I didn't buy my son expensive shoes and he walks. There are certain shoes that help support their ankles, I forget what they're called... someone help me out? But they aren't all that expensive and it isn't like if you don't buy them he won't walk..
Author Toni_no12002 Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 He doesnt really talk much either he can sort of say mamma n daddy and ta thats about it.I dont carry everywhere either if he wants something i get him to come to me. I suppose he is a boy though maybe thats why hes lazy (joke ) Someone also told me that if he isnt walking by a certain age he would have to see a specialist is that true?
littlekitty Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Relax... you simply can't compare babies!! My SO's son and my Best Friends son are 30 days apart. They both have their strong points, and they are both vastly different. There are things one can do the other can't and vice versa. He'll walk when he's good and ready, have not doubt. There is very little you can do about it, but it's nothing to do with your parenting skills!
Author Toni_no12002 Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 Thats the biggest BS Toni!! I didn't buy my son expensive shoes and he walks. There are certain shoes that help support their ankles' date=' I forget what they're called... someone help me out? But they aren't all that expensive and it isn't like if you don't buy them he won't walk..[/quote'] Thanks lol i have bought him some quite good shoes its just he prefers to pull them off
BareGoddess Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Is he talking a lot? Babies tend to go in stages, AFAIK. Babies to talk a lot early tend to walk later, and babies walk early tend to be verbal later. This may be true. Our son started walking at 10 months but didn't really start talking until about 2 1/2 to 3 years.
Author Toni_no12002 Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 Relax... you simply can't compare babies!! My SO's son and my Best Friends son are 30 days apart. They both have their strong points, and they are both vastly different. There are things one can do the other can't and vice versa. He'll walk when he's good and ready, have not doubt. There is very little you can do about it, but it's nothing to do with your parenting skills! My sons good at eating and drinking juice thats all he seems to want to do lol
blind_otter Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 My sister's two kids are opposite. The little girl talked WAY early and walked a lot later, but her son walked WAY early and talked later.
Naughty Peach Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 My son could walk fine, but refused to because my family always picked him up. He could walk at about ten months old. He didn't do it around family until about 13 mos. My daughter could walk at 7 mos, but that was only because her big brother stole her toy and it pissed her off. Acutally she took off running. The rest of the time she just rolled around and didn't even bother with crawling. She didn't walk all the time til she was about a year old. Babies are just different. It sounds like he has a good grip on how to cruise around. I wouldn't worry too much.
Author Toni_no12002 Posted July 7, 2006 Author Posted July 7, 2006 Thanks everyone.Ill just keep encouraging him to walk hopefully he will do it soon!Thanks again everyone
quankanne Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 Toni! Good to see you back! your son will be fine – he's just a bit unsure about himself when it comes to walking, so he's hesitant to try it. A thought: do a little experiment with and without shoes as you lead him around the room, letting him walk as he holds on to your finger for support. My niece's little boy (who didn't talk until he was nearly 4 because his older sister "translated" for him all the time) hated wearing shoes. Not sure if he walked early or not, but I distinctly remember his hatred of shoes. as another mama suggested, make a game of it. When he does take steps unaided, cheer loudly and excitedly. You might also find toys that he can push around – that usually gives them a sense of balance as they walk with it. in the meantime, don't be so hard on yourself. If you've got a healthy, happy baby, you're way ahead of the game. Even if other moms start in on what their babies do, why doesn't yours, ignore them. He'll figure things out in good time, then you're going to be running your butt off trying to stay a few steps ahead of the boy! hugs, quank
Author Toni_no12002 Posted July 7, 2006 Author Posted July 7, 2006 Thanks he took one step today but as soon as he realised that there was nothing there to hold on to he went to his knees.I clapped and cheered and he sat there laughing.I know he can do it its just trying to find ways to get him to be more confident.I always try to walk him round the room holding just one of his hands and he does it easy.Sometimes when i try to get him to walk he has tantrums like he doesnt want to.I suppose i cant force him to.I tried enticing him with chocolate earlier but hes not stupid he just got to his knees and crawled to me.
Tim'sAngel Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 BTW, I rememberd the name of those shoes. They're called Striderites? They have a good ankle support and might make him feel more secure or confident as his legs wont be so wobbly. Just a suggestion.
ashnicole Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 My son started walking when he was 10 months old. He "scooted" at around 4 months, and never really crawled, he went straight to walking. He was a big guy (9 lbs when he was born) and I'm not a big girl (5'4, 105 lbs) so it really hurt my back to carry him... so everywhere he went around the house, he did it himself... I think that's why he started walking so early, because he knew if he wanted to get there, he had to get there himself, and he figured out that walking was faster. Haha. Take him to the doctor... just to make sure there's nothing wrong with him. A friend of mine's daughter wasn't walking by the time she was 24 months, and it scared her... because she'd never shown any interest. After about six doctor visits, they finally found out she had a growth problem with her legs, and it physically hurt her to put any pressure on her feet, at all... because the bones weren't growing correctly. Not trying to scare you or anything, it could be nothing... but it never hurts to get it checked out.
Tim'sAngel Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 My son started walking when he was 10 months old. He "scooted" at around 4 months, and never really crawled, he went straight to walking. He was a big guy (9 lbs when he was born) OMG, so was mine!! 9 lbs even!! He was the biggest newborn I'd ever seen lol And I am only 5'2!! I really don't know how I carried all that weight around for 9 months!!
quankanne Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 I tried enticing him with chocolate earlier but hes not stupid he just got to his knees and crawled to me. :laugh: honey, I'd go crawling on my knees for some good chocolate were it offered!!!
Author Toni_no12002 Posted July 7, 2006 Author Posted July 7, 2006 I tried enticing him with chocolate earlier but hes not stupid he just got to his knees and crawled to me. :laugh: honey, I'd go crawling on my knees for some good chocolate were it offered!!! lol yer i suppose but i thought because i held it quite high he might try and take a few steps to get it.Ahh well I know he can do it because before he went to bed his dad stood him up and he sort of walked to me but staggered and then fell onto me.So he can but he wont!!!grrr lol
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