spinnelli Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 I'm new here but from the posts I've read so far, it seems people are using NC to lure their exes back, is that the point? i.e, go away for a while and let them miss you, then they will want you back. I thought the rightful use of NC is to try and get over the relationship and move on with your life, i.e, "out of sight, out of mind"?. At least that's what I use it for. Please clarify for me
Smung Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Out of sight out of mind is the point! That what I use it for. There is no point in staying in constant contact with the ex after they break with you. It will only cause problems as you are in no state of mind to adjust to the new situation. You need time to back away from the old and adjust to the new. Sometimes time and space will bring someone back, the issue then becomes do you really want/need them back? Stay strong!
Diver012 Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Out of sight out of mind is the point! That what I use it for. There is no point in staying in constant contact with the ex after they break with you. It will only cause problems as you are in no state of mind to adjust to the new situation. You need time to back away from the old and adjust to the new. Sometimes time and space will bring someone back, the issue then becomes do you really want/need them back? Stay strong! Agreed NC is about moving on as quickly as possible.
donpepot Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 its both... for you to heal and rhave a recess for the drama.. and give her space to think clearly and see the picture clearly..
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