Another Guest Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 To anyone that reads this, thanks! I could use some help, if it is possible… I have known this girl from India for a little more than a year now (~15 months). And, just to disclose all information, I was born and raised in the US…so we’re talking about two people from totally different backgrounds here. Up until probably 4 months ago, this girl and I were nothing more than friends, in fact, Id call it 'friends in passing.' Despite us two 'sort of' working in the same area, we never really ran into each other due to different work schedules. During those times when I saw her, she’d always catch my eye, but we were always so busy, we never had the chance to talk about anything. Well, 4 months back, there arose a situation where we needed to discuss some work related issues online. So we did, and I thought it would be the end of it. But, that was not the case. Since then, we've progressed to talking quite a bit 4-6 hrs/day on average (usually very late at night, and usually online). Our conversations generally go without any pauses, so we never run out of things to discuss…and the time flies when we’re chatting. We appear to treat each other differently now than our other friends, in the sense that we tell each other stuff that we don’t tell them. Furthermore, we both like to playfully joke about one another…she likes to crack jokes about me in particular. And for the record, we have been to a handful of movies together (generally with a few friends), but always sat next to each other. I had to leave the country in May for work related issues (will be returning in August), yet we still maintain the online discussions on a daily basis. To sum it up…we get along great! So, I figure anyone who wants to talk to me for that long and about the stuff we discuss has to be, at the very least, somewhat interested right – I hope? But, I always get (what I think) are mixed signals. For instance, she has mentioned in the past about how the culture in India is very strict etc etc etc and how things are supposed to play out. On the other hand, there was a conversation I was having with a friend of mine about people we knew we were married/engaged. Well, it got back to her that we had no clue about here ‘status’ and she sought me out online one day and told me she had no boyfriend/husband in India or here. My friend indicated to me that was a sure fire sign she liked me…? I was not so sure… Frankly, I have liked a lot of girls in the past…but this one is different. There is something about her that just makes me feel different. Yet, I am hesitant to flat out ask her how she feels due to the fact that 1) we work at the same place (which could become awkward if I was wrong) and 2) the absolute worst thing that could happen is me asking her how she feels makes things weird, thus damaging this incredible friendship we're forged. I figured now would be the time to ask for outsider’s opinions, as some of my friends have started to pick up on it and realized that I do like this girl quite a bit… So, with all my rambling, my basic question is…what’s the deal? Are we GOOD friends, or could it be possible she likes me, as I do her?
Outcast Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Never start a relationship by confessing your feelings or asking for hers. Just ask if she'd like to have lunch or coffee with you. Start small.
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