Mary3 Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Guys : Do you prefer when first meeting a woman one that tells you how wonderful or handsome you are OR do you prefer a woman who is more reserved and keeps you guessing about what she thinks about you. ? Do you feel comfortable with a woman who thinks you are great ( and tells you ) or would you prefer for her to be more laid back and mysterious ?
blue16 Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Guys : Do you prefer when first meeting a woman one that tells you how wonderful or handsome you are OR do you prefer a woman who is more reserved and keeps you guessing about what she thinks about you. ? Do you feel comfortable with a woman who thinks you are great ( and tells you ) or would you prefer for her to be more laid back and mysterious ? Always wanna be guessing. Once you find out a girl thinks you are great/handsome etc...the chase is mostly over.
Author Mary3 Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 Always wanna be guessing. Once you find out a girl thinks you are great/handsome etc...the chase is mostly over. Very interesting Blue. So now I know that a more casual laid back approach is the right thing. I guess I thought men like to be told how smart , funny , or strong they are . We always keep learning. Thanks for clarifying.
Outcast Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Mary, one man is not all men. No single man can speak for them all. You may have yourself a guy who needs to hear compliments. Every human is different so these 'what do men/women like' questions will never get accurate answers.
Author Mary3 Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 Mary, one man is not all men. No single man can speak for them all. You may have yourself a guy who needs to hear compliments. Every human is different so these 'what do men/women like' questions will never get accurate answers. I know I like hearing that I am special and cared for. I reciprocate that back but not all men feel comfortable with that . I can hear anything from " Whatever " to " Nah ,I am not that special. Does it feel like an ego boost or an irritation to hear someone tell you that your body is ripped ( insert compliment ) ! ? hehe.
magichands Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 For example, "That was wonderful, but... I've had even better," is a great motivator. Encouragement is key, but there is always room for improvement.
Outcast Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 "That was wonderful, but... I've had even better," is a great motivator MH, I think you should write a book
Author Mary3 Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 For example, "That was wonderful, but... I've had even better," is a great motivator. Encouragement is key, but there is always room for improvement. You mean when you have sex and you say " That was wonderful but I have had better " ? lol. Please clarify
magichands Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Sorry about that. I've got cooking on the brain. Food, food, food.
Poboy Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Guys : Do you prefer when first meeting a woman one that tells you how wonderful or handsome you are OR do you prefer a woman who is more reserved and keeps you guessing about what she thinks about you. ? Do you feel comfortable with a woman who thinks you are great ( and tells you ) or would you prefer for her to be more laid back and mysterious ? Telling a guy he is great or handsome on the first meet can be considered a strong approach showing intrest in the guy ( as interpreted by most guys lol ). Guys will start gettinng ideas in their heads and the brain works overtime i personally would like it if a woman who is reserved and then over time , throws comments and hints ... much more fun
Outcast Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 I had a great lumpia tonight. Which, when spoken, takes on a whole other implication LOL
magichands Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 I hope you took it in slowly, inch by inch... and really enjoyed the contents.
Outcast Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 I mmmmmost certainly did In fact the gentleman in question watched
Author Mary3 Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 I mmmmmost certainly did In fact the gentleman in question watched Whatcha guys talking about ?? lol
tanbark813 Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 I'm a sucker for compliments. It might be my Leo vanity.
Pantero Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 I love compliments, however, too many can be a turn-off. Like one of the above posters said, the chase ends a bit too quickly... Thus, I'd dig more of the mystery. It's a bit more exciting.
electric_sheep Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 I am a strong proponent of direct and honest communication. I really don't like playing games, and I think pretending to be aloof and indifferent when in fact you are interested is a form of game. That's not to say you should compliment one excessively, but I think an honest compliment or two can do nothing but help. I once dated a girl who was forever stingy on compliments. I interpreted this as her only having moderate interest in the relationship, and hence started looking elsewhere. Only after I broke up with her did I realize she thought I was the cat's meow all along.
mika Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 Mary, one man is not all men. No single man can speak for them all. You may have yourself a guy who needs to hear compliments. Every human is different so these 'what do men/women like' questions will never get accurate answers. I totally aggree that you cannot take one man's opinion on ANYTHING and put it on every other man. same with women. generalizations are okay to have an idea but you have to go further with each person specifically. i think that you should do what you like and there will be someone who likes what you like. if i like to give compliments i will give them because that is what i like to do and if he is a guy who doesn't like them, then we won't be together. i'll be with the guy who does like them.
junkboy Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 I would agree that slowly working up to compliments is a good idea. Although I feel it is important to perhaps have a small compliment at the begining to let the guy know that you are interested. But I would not bombard a guy with compliments. My experience with this is that the girl always wanted something (just sex, money, me to feed her ego, etc) and that would make me run the other way. I think a lot of men like it most if they are complimented on something they accomplished. Say a guy buys you flowers then you can compliment them on how good of a job they did picking out the right flowers... or you could just do this by gushing about the flowers. I also really like it if I fix something like the door or something and I get props for being so handy.
nicki Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 I compliment when something genuinely hits me about the guy, but I'm careful not to gush. A few quickly stated and specific compliments seem go a long way. For instance, last week, I told my boyfriend: 1. Your ass looks great in those jeans. Even better naked, though, so drop the jeans. 2. Great job on finishing that project a month ahead of schedule. 3. That was sound advice you gave ____(name). I found that my boyfriend didn't like it when I thanked him for things like calling regularly, responding quickly to text messages, etc....so, I just give him more sex, which seems to be the best compliment.
crazy_grl Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 I am a strong proponent of direct and honest communication. I really don't like playing games, and I think pretending to be aloof and indifferent when in fact you are interested is a form of game. Not every person who doesn't act as interested as they are is playing a game. For some it's a defense mechanism because they're afraid to open themselves up and show those feelings before they fully trust the person. To me, that's not a game. Games are when you do something deliberately with the intent of getting a reaction out of the other person. Some people are not naturually complimenters or gushers. They like to keep their feelings close to their chest. That doesn't make them game players... Not that you have to be with those kind of people if you don't like that in a person. If you need the compliments to feel good about the relationship, you should be with someone who can give it to you. But don't always assume it's a game if someone doesn't act as interested as they are.
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