Sadistic_Life Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Okay, so I am curious...while having sex, what do you think about? I mean, are you thinking about how hot your partner is? Do you notice his/her flaws? Do you think, "God, he/she needs to loose weight/shape-up," or "Damn, I am so lucky to be getting some"? You see, I am considering having sex, and, honestly, I have a pretty poor self-image. I mean, I am fine with myself, but I really don't see how someone else could consider me attractive. So, I guess I am worried that if I do decide to sleep with him, that all he'll be thinking is, "God, she looks awful!" I mean, he has to think I am somewhat hot to even want to sleep with me, right? Oh, dear God...what if he changes his mind once I take my clothes off ? I would rather do this in the dark, but he is all about being able to "see me." I don't know how comfortable I am with this, but I would be more-so if he weren't focusing on my flaws, which is why I am asking this.
Tim'sAngel Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 I felt the same way when I first had sex with my SO. I hadn't had sex in over a year, and I had a baby which means my breast aren't as firm anymore, I have loose skin around my tummy, scars, I still was packing some baby weight around... I was terrified of having sex and taking off my clothes!! Truth be told, it's been 9 months and I have just started being able to be completely naked in front of him. I've lost some weight and have been working out so that helps a little. The thing that makes me feel so good is that all this time I have been disgusted with myself and it's like he doesn't' even notice my flaws!! It feels wonderful to be naked under him knowing he loves everything about me. It helps that he tells me that as well. I realy don't think you bf will be laying there thinking "Damn this girl is ugly, she needs to put some clothes on" while having sex with you. Men are visually stemulated, so I'm thinking if he thought you were that disgusting, he wouldn't even be able to maintain an erection. Why would he want to have sex with you if he wasn't sexually attracted to you?
magichands Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 I would rather do this in the dark, but he is all about being able to "see me." He wants you. Bad!!!!
jerbear Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 I do think, when it comes to sex, I do not think of other things other than she is hot, I'm getting some, what is the next position to do it in. Where, when and how for the next position or location. Honestly, if I am having sex with the woman, at that stage I've gotten past her flaws. I would not get that far if I do not find her attractive or sexually appealing.
HeyYouGuys Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 THinking? Usually "Um. Yes. Uh Huh. That's Right. Uh Huh. Oh God. Right. OK. Good. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.":laugh:
Whatsyourpleasure Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 Im thinking...right there....right there.. dont stop. All I can focus on is how good it feels. If I start thinking of other things like how I look and what hes thinking...I can't...ya know. Also I like my man to talk dirty. That really gets me for some reason. And as far as doing it with the lights...maybe start with some candles first. And if he didn't find you attractive, he wouldn't try so hard to see you! Men love to look.
Guest Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 I usually visualise the room and count every corner in my head.
lovestruck234 Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Think: "Oh....oh....oh..OH.....OH...OHHH!!" Say: "Oh...oh...oh..OH.....OH.......OHHHHHH!!!"
magichands Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Say: "Oh...oh...oh..OH.....OH.......OHHHHHH!!!" It's rude to speak when your mouth's full.
lovestruck234 Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 It's rude to speak when your mouth's full. You know what I mean....
lovestruck234 Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 I felt the same way when I first had sex with my SO. I'm really sorry if this is a dumb question, but I am FAIRLY new to LS and have read everywhere the word SO. What the hell does it stand for? It's getting me really frustrated cos I've been trying to find a good opportunity to ask but I haven't found one, so this is the place! An answer is appreciated.... (knowing me, a blonde, it will probably be a really straight forward answer LOL )
Hyacinth123 Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 I'm really sorry if this is a dumb question, but I am FAIRLY new to LS and have read everywhere the word SO. What the hell does it stand for? Significant Other
lovestruck234 Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Ahhhh, riiiight...I KNEW it wouldv'e been a straight forward answer. Thanks heaps!
Sally00 Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 I will not "do the deed" till marriage. And if I were to, while "doing the deed", I would feel like absolute dirty crap. I would know God is watching and I would just die right then. I wouldn't forgive myself. I wouldn't be truly happy "doing the deed". I would think how horrible I am. So those are my thoughts.
BareGoddess Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 I will not "do the deed" till marriage. And if I were to, while "doing the deed", I would feel like absolute dirty crap. I would know God is watching and I would just die right then. I wouldn't forgive myself. I wouldn't be truly happy "doing the deed". I would think how horrible I am. So those are my thoughts. I don't understand this. You'd feel like "dirty crap" while making love to your husband? What kind of religion teaches you to feel that way?
lovestruck234 Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 I don't understand this. You'd feel like "dirty crap" while making love to your husband? What kind of religion teaches you to feel that way? Hmmm...I'm curious as well.
alphamale Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 it depends on a number of factors....the woman, length of relationship, how hot she is, how drunk I am, whether or not I saw some other hot female that same day, how long I've had sex in, if i'm really horny or not really....blabh blah blah...
Sally00 Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 I don't understand this. You'd feel like "dirty crap" while making love to your husband? What kind of religion teaches you to feel that way? Not to my HUSBAND... to my BOYFRIEND. Wow people. " I will not "do the deed" till marriage. And if I were to [DO THE DEED BEFORE MARRIAGE], while "doing the deed", I would feel like absolute dirty crap. "
BareGoddess Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 Not to my HUSBAND... to my BOYFRIEND. Wow people. " I will not "do the deed" till marriage. And if I were to [DO THE DEED BEFORE MARRIAGE], while "doing the deed", I would feel like absolute dirty crap. " Ok. I guess I misunderstood.
basscatcher Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 typically I am thinking about the guy I'm with and how I feel about him and how he is making me feel.... when the O is near I'm thinking: harder, deeper, slower, faster, move this way, move that way. :lmao: About the only time I am thinking of another man is if I'm with the wrong man and make a stupid choice for attention. Which is rare these days. I've often wondered if the man I'm with is really WITH me!! I wonder if he is with me because he truly cares about me and wants ME or if he is using me or settling because I'm available! When I'm not happy in a relationship I often wonder WTH am I doing this for?
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