Guest Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 my bf of 5 years and i just broke up, it was sort of mutual and ended on ok terms. We still talk and he always says if i ever need anything he is there for me and will always answer the phone. He told me that yesterday he told his best friend that he would marry me but im too insecure and that eads to fighting. Then he told me maybe we jsut need to grow up ( were only 21) and be ourselves for a while and someday down the road who knows we could be together again. I want to be with him so much, should i take this info as a good sighn or totally disreagurd it. I like to think we could e together again someday but dont want to depend on it. can someone help me on what i need to do, and maybe decode what he is saying to me ?
srsvfx Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 he wants to experience other women... who knows if he'll really want to come back to you after meeting new people. dont wait. live your life as well or you will regret it.
spinnelli Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 You are 21, be glad because there will other men. I know it's hard to think of that now because you're hurting but when you do get over it, you will realize that he's right, you still have some growing up to do and trust me, by the time he wants to come back to you in 5 years, you probably wouldn't even want him back because your taste in life, men, etc would have matured. I think of the guys I dated at 18-21 and my attitude in general at that time and I just cringe. You couldn't pay me to go out with the same guys today.
wintercs Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 From a guy who's currently going through one of these tough times, I can empathize with the loss you're feeling. We're in similar situations, although my gf and I were only together for 6 months or so, not even close to the five years you and your bf were together. I think that this guy probably wants to see what life is like being single, especially at the age of 21. Not knowing anything about him, he may just want to go to the bars with his buddies and live it up without having to worry about getting into trouble with you. That doesn't mean he doesn't love you or care for you, it just means that he wants to act like a 21 year old for the time being. My advice to you would be to try to spend some time apart and do your own thing with your own friends and on your own terms. Seek out your close friends and spend as much time with them as possible doing things other than talk about your situation (this will be difficult, I realize). I know this will be some trying times for you but just think about it this way...if there weren't any rainy days, flowers would never blossom. Cheesy, yes, but there is a point. Do your best, stay strong, and realize that yes, this does suck, but you will get through it and hopefully in the end everything will work out for the best for the two of you. Good luck
Schn00ginz Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 i have been in a similar situation, and not to give you false hope, but my bf (now ex bf) did break up with me for 6 mos. because we were to young for each other and I was too insecure. what you have to do now is have fun by yourself and if is meant to work out in the future, it will, and you will have a much better, healthier relationship
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