crazy_grl Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 I met a sales guy the other day and he was helping me out by answering some questions I had. We talked for I think an hour or so, some of it was joking about unrelated stuff. Then I told him I had to go and asked if he had a card. He gave me one, wrote his cell number on the back and said to call if I had any more questions. He was cute and fun, and I'm pretty sure he was interested in me. I'm gonna call him, but I'm not sure what to say. Any suggestions?
Tim'sAngel Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 "Hi "Chris", I was slipping into my little baby doll nightie and crawling into my bed when I realised, my bed is too big for me!! I was wondering, would you be interested in filling the empty space?" He should be over in about 5 minutes!
BareGoddess Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 I'd call him up and thank him so much for all his help and then maybe ask him a couple of other questions about whatever you were talking about. At the end of the conversation I might say: "Can I thank you for all your help by taking you to lunch?" Or it can be coffee..whatever.
Pantero Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Generally what works for me when I call a girl who gave me her number is to recall something we had joked about and kind of spin off that as an opener when I called her back. Then go with the flow from there. Good luck
Author crazy_grl Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 "Hi "Chris", I was slipping into my little baby doll nightie and crawling into my bed when I realised, my bed is too big for me!! I was wondering, would you be interested in filling the empty space?" He should be over in about 5 minutes! lol. Not exactly what I was going for. Close though... close...
Author crazy_grl Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 Thanks for the suggestions, guys. I don't think I've ever called up a guy I didn't know pretty well before hand. I'd call him up and thank him so much for all his help OMG, that's so obvious I think I'm a moron for not thinking about that. I guess my parents didn't teach me manners very well. and then maybe ask him a couple of other questions about whatever you were talking about. That's what I was thinking I'd do. Problem is, I can't think of anything to ask. Guess I'll come up with something.
BareGoddess Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Maybe we can help you think of something to ask if you tell us what you were talking about with him. Was it electronics or appliances or funiture? I'm sure we can help you come up with some questions.
Tim'sAngel Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Did you buy something from him? If so, call him with another question. When he gave you his number, did he make it obvious he wanted you to call him? I mean you did say you were pretty sure he was into you, so I'm guessing when he gave you the card he gave it in a way that said "Hey here is my number so please call me." Then just ask what he is doing that weekend, or something that will give him a window of opportunity to ask you out if you don't want to come right out and ask him. Or maybe you do.
Author crazy_grl Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 OMFG!!!! Unbelievable! I just called and told him thanks for helping me. He said something like, "No problem. I know a lot about music. If you need help, just come to the store." Then I hear a female voice and he says, "I've gotta let you go." I started to make a post about how bizarre that was considering how much he was flirting with me. In mid-post, my phone starts ringing. It's his number. I think, "how weird" and I consider not picking up. I answer and hear a woman saying, "You better not be lying to me." Then he answers her, "You're trippin, baby." :sick: I'm sitting here in shock, so I don't say anything. By the time I start to say, "hello", she's already hung up. Then she calls back after a couple minutes. I'm able to answer this time cause I'm not so shocked. She asks who I am and I tell her. Then she asks why I'm calling, and I say because he gave me his number when I was in the store. She said she'd appreciate it if I called him at work about work stuff and not his cell phone. I told her ok, and I didn't know that calling him would be a problem. I feel bad for her. I felt like I should have told her to leave her creep bf, but it's not really my place and there's a possibility that he was giving me his number innocently. (But how many sales people really do that??) Geez... just when I was starting to entertain the possibility that all men aren't creeps...
Tim'sAngel Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 OMG what a loser!! Ugh... I hate when men do that. So he gave his cell with the risk of being caught?? He isn't very bright is he. Hunny, their not all creeps. You just happened to pick one that was. I feel sorry for his gf, she should have not been upset with you it isn't like you forced him to write his celly number down. Then again, I'm sure she was just upset that her bf would give his number out. Does he work at a place you visit often? Do you think you will have to see him again?
Author crazy_grl Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 Hunny, their not all creeps. You just happened to pick one that was. I've picked many more than one. I feel sorry for his gf, she should have not been upset with you it isn't like you forced him to write his celly number down. I thought she handled it pretty well. She sounded pissed when she was talking to him, but she was pretty polite to me, especially considering the situation. What she said basically got the point across the he has a gf and she doesn't want me calling him without being bitchy about it. I just hope she's smart enough to figure out what a player her bf is and dump him. That conversation left me with flashbacks to my old roommates and how he was cheating on her. She got the girl's number from the cell phone bill and called her up. The girl had no idea he had a pregnant gf. Does he work at a place you visit often? Do you think you will have to see him again? Well, I was going to go into the store at least occasionally. Now I think I'll look for another place that's nearby.
BareGoddess Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Well, be proud that you took a chance and went for it. I'm so sorry that happened to you though. That stinks! Don't let this discourage you in the future.
Author crazy_grl Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 Hmm... however, if I look on the bright side, blackmail could get me a pretty big discount. What's 15% of $900? I'm not even sure whether I'm kidding...
BareGoddess Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Hmm... however, if I look on the bright side, blackmail could get me a pretty big discount. What's 15% of $900? I'm not even sure whether I'm kidding... Ha! Ha! Very funny. But I hope you ARE kidding. Hey, maybe he'll be so embarassed that he'll give you a deal. I'd certainly ask for one. What do you have to lose, right?
Trimmer Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 This may sound odd, but do you realize how lucky you are? 10 minutes earlier or later and she might have been in the bathroom, or outside, or somewhere different, and you might have started up a very nice conversation with what sounded like a great guy, and who knows how much farther it might have gone before the wheels started coming off the wagon? How lucky was it that you found out as early as you did, that she happened to be there and call him on it? Look at it as really good timing! She sounds like a pretty level person if she was able to talk to you in a calm way without putting it on your shoulders. Or, could be that she has been through this before, and knows how he operates....
Blather1213 Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 isn't it possible that he may have just given your number for music questions, and you read into it? you asked how many sales people give out their numbers. the answer is a lot. or, he could just be a jerk.
Author crazy_grl Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 This may sound odd, but do you realize how lucky you are? 10 minutes earlier or later and she might have been in the bathroom, or outside, or somewhere different, and you might have started up a very nice conversation with what sounded like a great guy, and who knows how much farther it might have gone before the wheels started coming off the wagon? Yep, I already considered that. I'm glad she was there when I called.
Author crazy_grl Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 isn't it possible that he may have just given your number for music questions, and you read into it? you asked how many sales people give out their numbers. the answer is a lot. or, he could just be a jerk. Well, I don't know many sales people that give out their personal phone numbers for business purposes unless it seems like the person is loaded and about to do a lot of buying. I may have asked a lot of questions, but I didn't give any impression that I had major cash. And I don't think that my judgement on this was that far off, especially after how weird and rushed he was acting when he answered the phone. If he was on the up and up, he should have had no problem finding out if I had a work-related question instead of rushing me off the phone because his gf was around. Screams "guilty" to me. Also if that were the case, out of respect for his gf, I think he should have at least mentioned her or not given me his number just to make sure I didn't get the wrong impression.
blue16 Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Well, I don't know many sales people that give out their personal phone numbers for business purposes unless it seems like the person is loaded and about to do a lot of buying. I may have asked a lot of questions, but I didn't give any impression that I had major cash. And I don't think that my judgement on this was that far off, especially after how weird and rushed he was acting when he answered the phone. If he was on the up and up, he should have had no problem finding out if I had a work-related question instead of rushing me off the phone because his gf was around. Screams "guilty" to me. You're absolutely right. I was thinking that possibly he wanted your number strictly for business and you're reading too much into it, but the fact that he's hiding the whole thing from his SO shows that he's got something to hide (ie he had more than just business intentions by giving his number out). These are the kinda guys that give the definition of playa a bad name.
Trimmer Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 isn't it possible that he may have just given your number for music questions, and you read into it? you asked how many sales people give out their numbers. the answer is a lot. or, he could just be a jerk. yeah, but: (1) He gave her a business card, which certainly would already have had the store number on it, then specifically hand-wrote his cell number on it and told her to call, (2) Yet when she did call, and he answered the call in front of his gf, he backpedaled and told her to call the store - why would he have written the cell number in the first place, then? (3) His gf independently came to the same conclusion as crazy_grl - that something was amiss... Sure, anything is possible, but I bet if he had been somewhere "safely" away from his gf, that cell phone call wouldn't have abruptly ended with "...if you need help, just come to the store.... Click."
Trimmer Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 These are the kinda guys that give the definition of playa a bad name. I must be behind the times.... is there a definition of "playa" that has a good name?
jerbear Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Wow... at least you found out early and his GF knows how to find out and put him in line! :laugh: He won't be giving out cards with cell numbers anytime soon or will he? Sales people give out cards all the time, even I do that but not with hand written cell phones on them. If the business wanted to include them, it would not have anything written on it. I give out my cards with personal cell numbers if I LIKE HER.
blue16 Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 From one of my favourite sites... Playa - One who utilizes game to his advantage to be able to date or f*** multiple women at once without being caught by the other women or having enough game that the other women end up not caring any way. The second part is my definition of a playa. But unfortunately, most people feel it means the same thing as 'sleazebug' 'creep' etc. and that's the widespread definition.
blind_otter Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 This happened to me once, but the guy's GF answered the phone and didn't really speak english. So he called me later that night with an elaborate story about picking up his mother and his friend from El Salvador holding his phone at the mall, and yeah it was confusing to hear it from him, too. I don't really understand the connection between picking up your mother and having your friend hold your cellphone. But he just kept calling me after that for like months, randomly, in the middle of the night asking to meet up etc. Asexuality my friend, it's the only solution.
Author crazy_grl Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 Asexuality my friend, it's the only solution. I completely agree. I considered lesbianism, but I don't think it's any better on that side of the fence either.
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