a/k Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 Hey there, I'm new here. I have been attracted to this particular girl for the past week and a half. We went out twice. On the first date we went to see a movie, everything turned out well. On the 2nd date I took her on a walk in the park. After the date was over she invited me over to her place, had some food, watched TV and kissed me good night. We went through 2 days without contact until I called her up (friday). we chatted for a little bit and she suggested to go on another date on saturday saying that she will give me a call then Alright, so heres saturday, waiting for her call all day, I decided to call her up and see what's up, she told me she will give me a call back a little later so I waited.. but no call. I ended up going on a family vacation for about 3 days. I called her on sunday but she didn't pick up. 2 days go by, I got back home and decided to give her a call, she said she was sick or something on saturday.. so we chatted for a little bit and said she will give me a call the next day.. and again, no call is there something wrong I did?
BareGoddess Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 There's no way to know unless we were on the date with you. There could be any number of reasons, some having nothing to do with you at all, for her not returning your calls. I'd let this one go and move on. She's obviously not interested for whatever reason.
Author a/k Posted July 5, 2006 Author Posted July 5, 2006 well, on the previous dates, it looked like she really had a great time. should i just duck low and see what happens?
BareGoddess Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 well, on the previous dates, it looked like she really had a great time. should i just duck low and see what happens? Yes, that's what I would do. If she is really interested, she'll call you. If not, she won't. Maybe she DID have a great time on the dates with you. You don't really know for sure. I've gone on dates where I looked like I was having a good time but knew the person wasn't really right for me. And then I just didn't go out with them again. Try not to take it personally. Just wait and see what happens because if you keep calling her you'll just push her further away.
The slayer Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 I agree with Bare Goddess completely. I would add if you haven't heard from her in a couple of weeks and you are still interested, give her a call and ask if she fancies meeting up. If you haven't agreed a time and place to meet by the end of the call I'd say spare yourself any more hassle just give up.
gfto Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 is there something wrong I did? Probably not. Most likely, she wasn't all that interested in you to begin with. It happens all the time. Two dates mean nothing. You have to get in two months, or 9 or 10 dates to really determine whether she likes you. Frequently, a woman might appear to be having a good time, when in reality, she's not very interested in you. The guy normally doesn't see it, because he's so caught up in her that he's already planning the wedding in his mind.
Tim'sAngel Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 I think you should move on as well. It is obvious that she is somewhat avoiding the next date. It doesn't mean you did anything wrong. I've been on several dates with several different men in the past and had a terrific time on the first date but then realized we just didn't click or maybe she met someone else and doesn't want to hurt you. If you keep calling it is prolly going to bug her so I would let up on the phone calls. She has your number right? If she's interested in another date she will call. In the meantime, I would start looking for someone else. JMO
Author a/k Posted July 6, 2006 Author Posted July 6, 2006 well, I bump into her almost everyday. it'll be kinda akward making eye contact and not saying anything
Tim'sAngel Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 well, I bump into her almost everyday. it'll be kinda akward making eye contact and not saying anything Well in that case be friendly say hi and ask her how her day is going, then move on along. Thats why dating in the workplace is such a bad idea. When things don't work out then its teh awkwardness and having to see them everyday. In fact, don't most places have a policy about not dating employees?
BareGoddess Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Yes, I agree. It only has to be awkward if you make it that way. Act like nothing is up and just be friendly. Don't mention anything about your past dates or any future ones either though.
Author a/k Posted July 13, 2006 Author Posted July 13, 2006 well its been a week and a half since contact.. yesterday... one of my co workers stopped by where she worked at to get some lunch.. she told him to tell me to stop by.. so I did.. to see what she had to say.. she was pretty busy at the moment.. all she said was that she was gona give me a call once she got off.. but again.. no call.. im completely baffled
Chinook Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Have you ever seen that funny thing where a carrot is dangling in front of the donkey's nose... to make him move forwards..? Hm, seems that's what she's doing. Except, she's not really that into you. But keeping you interested is what's called a "back-burner" option. Now... do you want to be anyone's back burner option..? I'd not bother contacting her again and no matter what she says, she knows where you are.. let her do the chasing.
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