Guest Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 Should I be concerned about the fact my husband has recently started talking about this woman he works with alot? I guess its possible he doesn't even realize he is doing it. Its nothig unsual or out of the way as far as what he says about her. He has worked with this woman for about the past 5 years, and I have heard him mention her before, but lately it seems like alot. He talks about things like her divorce coming final, her teenage son and her buying him a car. The fact she raises horses etc. I have met this woman before and she seems nice. Shes alot older then me and my husband. Shes a heavy set lady with shoulder length hair and is in her late 40's. I see where she or he will call each other on the cell. Its not alot but sometimes and the duration of the calls are not long at all. This is not unsual becasue I see where he calls or will get calls from others he works with as well, men and women. They all call each other around the same time of day to find out where they are all going to meet up for lunch. I had heard before that when a person starts to talk about another person like that, reguardless of what it is they mention about the person, that there might be an interest there. Do others agree?
JackJack Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 IMO, right now it doesn't really sound like you need to be overly concerned. I would say you might would need to be concerned more so, if, they talked on the phone alot, the calls were longer, and it wasn't to find out when everyone was going to lunch etc. Or if he shared with you more personal things she was telling him. Which meant she/they were confiding in each other more. Still might not be a bad idea to keep your eyes open though.
a4a Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 That was the first sign in one of my past LTRs that my partner was cheating..................... constant chatter about the other person. Details and sob stories. This may not be true in your case.
Becoming Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 I'd trust my intuition, and yours seems to be alerted about a potential problem. I noticed my H talking about folks he'd met online more and more and lo and behold discovered an email affair later that I never would have suspected. But something made me look. It might also be a good idea to ask him if you should be concerned, if there's something that's not good about your relationship that he'd like changed. Best wishes.
Guest Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 I'd trust my intuition, and yours seems to be alerted about a potential problem. I noticed my H talking about folks he'd met online more and more and lo and behold discovered an email affair later that I never would have suspected. But something made me look. It might also be a good idea to ask him if you should be concerned, if there's something that's not good about your relationship that he'd like changed. Best wishes. Thanks for the replies. I was just told earlier on by my sister, who said she didn't think I needed to be concerend right now. She did say though, thats how alot of afffairs or affairs with co-workers start. But the fact he is not hiding it from me and lets me know what they talk about is something not to be worried about, according to her. She said that if he changes as far as how he acts about her, or talks to her more and more there might be a problem. I'm not overly concerned right now, but guess it could always lead to more.
typical Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 In my opinion, the only reason why some of us are saying that you dont need to be concerned is because of this statement: Shes alot older then me and my husband. Shes a heavy set lady with shoulder length hair and is in her late 40's. Admit it. If she were young and attractive, nearly everyone would be waving the red flags. The fact is, when it comes to emotional or physical affairs, there is no age discrimination. Just keep an eye on it, and dont be fooled by grandma gumdrops.
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