sage1320 Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 hello everyone, aight let me tell u my story, I've been with the love of my life for 4 years and about 4 month. We've dated since we were in high school and soon after, we fell in LOVE. Everything in our relationship was going absolutely wonderful. I mean we got to the point where we were sleeping together, cooking for each other, having fun, and I mean everything u can think of was going really really great. In the 4 years we've been together there has been some issues, I say about 3 break ups and a couple of my issues. These break ups were not because of cheating or anything related to abuse. We broke up beacuse of my mistakes. She forgive me for the mistakes i had done. Anywyas she broke up with me because I didnt listen to her. She wanted me not to hang out with my friends because of drugs. One of the reasons she broke up with me was because i tried a drug( which i REGRET and I will never ever do) but this happen about 2 years ago she forgive me for that too..... WEll I didnt really wanted to hang out with my friends all i was trying to do is show them that drugs arnt the way to go but I failed to tell my gf. She found out and she left me........anywyas not too make it too long We've been broken up for a month i say, we've talked for like once a week but in the begining we didnt talked for like about 3 weeks or something anyways I mention to her we can get conceling for help but she refused becuase she says I have issues I will never change aight so I got a chance to talk to her about these issues and I know after the conversation we had she understood that I can change and it wont change my personality. We were both really happy that we talked so we dicided to go get something to eat, well we did and we laugh together and had a great time with no fighting and at the end of the day she didnt know whether to kiss me or not so she told me, " I dont know if we should do this," and after that we were looking staight at each other and just started to kiss as if we were still together.... anyways she said it felt good and that she liked it.. well she left really happy to work and I went really happy too... The next day i text messege her and she text at me back but she was really really sad and angry she said she wanted to be alone and that not to love her no more and she was just been really really angry... Well I rushed over to talk to her, just to talk straight out... not to make it too long, at the end we were happy again and she was calm and she mention that she likes when we just talk like this..She said she needs time and that she needs to think about this and she realized that she was acting stupid...well we went out to get some snacks and at the end we were both cuddling and been close to each other.. THen the next day she called me cause she needed help with her pc so I gave her help on the phone but she was been really mean but anyways late that night i say around 3:30am she text me and she said she was sorry for been all mean. I text her back and I told her it was okay and not to worry about it.. sorry for making too long but aight here whats going on now and i need advice 1. she ask me to give her time and space because she needs to think. 2.Do u think she still loves me? she says she does but not right now. 3.I really want her back and I need advice on how to get her to trust me again. 4.some tips or any suggestion would help well thank you for reading I hope I didnt bored anyone on here but I really love this girl and I am willing to do anything for her. I am giving her time but i find my self missing her like crazy. It's really hard...
MacGyver Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 I feel your pain. I'm going through something like this at the moment, and i must say my ex and I were very much the same as you have described. I don't know what to tell you, but i can tell you this. Breaking-Up should never happen. When it does, who ever did the "breaking up" did not just "click" one afternoon and decide to break up. With my ex, toward the end we just seemed to always fight, and in the end it happened just as you explained it. We spoke about it, had the "shouldnt do this" kiss, but the reality is that you have broken up... As much as the person who did the "breaking up" tries to sugar coat the situation, and explain to you why it happened, the bottom line is that it happened. No excuses... The last i spoke to my ex was last week. We left happy just like you guys did, but that doesnt mean anything. I've found that NC has helped. So here is my advice to you. - Just drop everything you had with her, and do something else. - Talk to her if thats what you want (not recommended), but know this "Things dont always turn out the way you want them to, and are you prepared to accept that if it happens?" - NC is your best bet. It will help you alot. Its done wonders for me. Finally, i know how cheesy this will sound, but if your love for eachother was true, then you have nothing to worry about, but for Gods sakes, do yourself a favour and keep yourself busy during this. When you least expect it, you'll find your answer.
Author sage1320 Posted July 5, 2006 Author Posted July 5, 2006 thanks for your reply. i mean towards the end we didnt even fight or anything, everything was normal but yeah i was thinking of going to NC all i can do now is wait and give her space and time. I hope she dicides to give me another chance but that may not be the case...
MacGyver Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 all i can do now is wait and give her space and time. I hope she dicides to give me another chance but that may not be the case... Thats fair enough, but how long are you prepared to wait? To be honest, you should wait at all. Just know that she might not decide to come back. Then what??? Where does that leave you??? In the mean time, shes over you, and your back to feeling like the day when she first left you. Just think about it, and make the decision based on whats best for you, and not her.
dub03 Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 It sucks man I know. Everyone has been there, but do you really need this heartache? I think a relationship can survive after one break-up, alovernd after that there is obviously something wrong. I know you love her, but maybe its time to move on, and find someone who respects you more. I am in full agreement with NC for a while. She will probably wonder why you stopped talking to her, and if she truly loves you she will come back to you. If not, I'm sorry to say it wasn't meant to be.
Author sage1320 Posted July 19, 2006 Author Posted July 19, 2006 wow its been a while since i posted the last time i posted was in 4th of july i think anyways UPDATE: lets see, so in the last couple of weeks that passed I really didnt talk to my x, yeah we talk sometimes, but the only time we talked was when she called me. THe reason why she called is because she was feeling really sad, depress and just blah... anywyas she called me twice and both time I made her feel good and happy well after the last call, we didint talk for about a week. I finally told myself i wasent going to talk to her no more and that I was going to let her call me... well surely she called me yesterday in the morning but i didnt asnwer her call.. I wanted to call her back but I refused so at night she called me again i answer this time and again we had a wondeful conversation. The good news about this conversation was that she does want to try us again i was really happy when she told me that but the bad news is that she is afraid that we are going to break up again.. so i told her not to worry, to trust me, to trust in our relationship and i tol dher that she wouldnt regret it.. well anyways we ended the call with a good night sweet dream, dream about me u know anyways I hope she does put fear behind and I hope she does take me back
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