alicia302 guest Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 My boyfriend has shoved me in the past and two days ago he punched my leg. He says that I provoke him. Last night he called me a "fxxking cxnt" twice. Why am I sitting here questioning my decision to end it? We have been together for almost 6 years.
Tony T Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 You want to leave, but....what? Any man who hits a woman is a coward and a scuzzbum of the highest order. You can't get away from him fast enough but you know him better than we do here so I would advise you to take all precautions possible so he doesn't get violent as you're making you're exit. NEVER, EVER, NEVER, EVER remain with a man who strikes you and degrades you with such disrespectful name calling. If you aren't going to have respect for yourself and get away, then you can't expect respect from others. I'm sorry Nicole Brown Simpson didn't come here for advice before she ultimately got sliced up to her eternal reward by O.J. She put up with the same stuff you are and look where it got her. Leave now...or at your soonest opportunity and don't look back. Being alone and alive is a whole lot better than being battered or dead and having a boyfriend! You can find somebody better on skid row!
BatteredByLove Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 ..... if he did care about you why would he call you names and hit you? A guy like that is just degrading, forget the little SOB, he doesnt deserve you.
Guest Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 You want to leave, but....what? Any man who hits a woman is a coward and a scuzzbum of the highest order. You can't get away from him fast enough but you know him better than we do here so I would advise you to take all precautions possible so he doesn't get violent as you're making you're exit. NEVER, EVER, NEVER, EVER remain with a man who strikes you and degrades you with such disrespectful name calling. If you aren't going to have respect for yourself and get away, then you can't expect respect from others. I'm sorry Nicole Brown Simpson didn't come here for advice before she ultimately got sliced up to her eternal reward by O.J. She put up with the same stuff you are and look where it got her. Leave now...or at your soonest opportunity and don't look back. Being alone and alive is a whole lot better than being battered or dead and having a boyfriend! You can find somebody better on skid row! Thank you so much for the advice. Whenever I try to leave, he threatens to "scar" me and my 9-year old daughter. He also lays the guilt trip on me. We were supposed to move in together in September and have spent quite a bit of money on the planning. He says that he will hate me forever and make sure that I am "ruined."
Guest Lucille Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 ..... if he did care about you why would he call you names and hit you? A guy like that is just degrading, forget the little SOB, he doesnt deserve you. If you allow anyone to hit you there is a deep problem within your soul. I lost my mother from the same events which led to her death. I grew up without my parents. Seek help and learn to love your self. No one is going to love you more. If you are in fear for your life then you need to get protective help from the police. You are someone's sister you have family they love you You might even be a parent. If you are not alive to raise your children just think of how that would hurt them, you did nothing to make a stand. I will keep you deep in my prayers. You can make it if you try.............
Tony T Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 So, just how romantic is that that you will remain with this guy forever because he threatens you bodily harm if you leave. See an attorney if you can, go to your local Legal Aid if you can't afford one. Get a peace bond or restraining order forbidding him from coming anywhere near you. Make arrangements with friends and family for a place to stay. Right now you are a prisoner in your own home. That sucks! So if he hates you forever, that's a long time for you to be very happy to be rid of the jerk!!!
Outcast Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 Call your local Domestic Violence centre (if you can't find the number, call the police non-emergency line and ask for a referral), ask them for help. This person sounds very dangerous so you will have to be very careful about how you leave him.
Violet87 Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 This man is emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive. I agree with the others by saying that you need to get away from this man as soon as possible. Despite whatever BS he may say, there is absolutely no excuse whatsoever for a man to put his hands on a woman in such a horrible manner and constantly disrespect/threaten her. For him to not only threaten you, but your daughter as well is lower than low. Any man who strikes you or calls you degrading names isn't worth your time. You also have a daughter to think about and I can guarantee that this is no healthy environment for her. How would you feel if some SOB treats her the same way your Bf treats you. Do what you must to get away from him. If it means getting police, authorities, or support involved so be it. I also think it would be best to get support (counseling, close family & friends) as well. I wish you well.
Guest Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 You all have been very supportive with your thoughts and advice. I just hope I can be strong enough through all this. Thanks again.
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