UT_longhorn Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 Hey guys and gals... For those of you that don't know my story, its been 6 months since my breakup. If you look at my prior posts, you'll see how much of a broken mess I was. I honestly thought I would never get better. I thought I'd be stuck in heartbreak land forever. I felt like I was in a waking nightmare. Pain upon more heaps of pain. I think for about 4 months it was very very rough. Then right around month 5, things started to heal very quickly. Now, I am doing very very well. I do still think of the ex, but its much rarer now. I still do have a little bit more healing to go, but I am definately on my way. I just want you others that are suffering and don't see a light at the end of the tunnel a bit of hope that things do get better. People would always say that things would get better and things will improve, but I just did not believe them. I felt that I would be stuck in that hell hole indefinately. But I think if you don't have any serious depression / self esteem issues, then you should see improvement. Everyone works on their own timeframe, so be patient. One thing that is reiterated so much here is no contact. And I suggest very very very strongly to go no contact. Delete or hide all traces of your ex. Emails, gifts, pictures, delete them from IM, never visit their myspace, facebook ..whatever it is. Basically you are trying to rid yourself of anything and everything that reminds you of them. If they are calling you, tell them to kindly respect your wishes and you need them to not call you/message you. Go work out!! It will boost your endorphine levels and boost your self confidence. It's difficult to get started, but once you get into it...you will see a vast help. Talk to the folks....my parents helped me immensely. Friends are great too, but you don't want to overbear them with your sad stories and rants. Family tend to listen with more of an open heart. Write....write it all out. I wrote pages and pages of things that I wanted to say to my ex. If I felt upset, I'd write it all out. If I felt angry, I'd write it all out. It is very therapeutic. I think writing is the thing that brought me over the hump. Good luck to all of you that are still coping. You will see brighter days. Even with days of rain, the sun does always come out in the end.
Brittanyjean06 Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 Yes we all feel at that moment that things will always be this way, but no they won't though at times you will be saddned the pain will subside, and one day you will be truely 100% healed ! But it takes time GOOD LUCK!!
justagirliegirl Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 Glad to hear you are doing better. I have always enjoyed your posts.
jerbear Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 Hey UT, Congrats on moving on. Same six months for me.
dividebyzero Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 hey ut, thanks for your words. it is nice to hear from someone who has been "down in the dumps" to have recovered. it makes hope rise again. hope for better times. i have also thought about writing, about keeping a journal of all the stuff i am going through right now. but somehow i never got to it. although i think it would be a great way to recognize/confront one's fears and drives. my medicine is to take long bike trips through the mountains. somehow i have always felt a very tight bond to nature; it soothes me a lot. just my 2c.
BrandonBP Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 Holy crap. It's been almost six weeks for me. I can't even fathom 6 months. But I'm glad you're well finally.
riobikini Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 re: UT: "People would always say that things would get better and things will improve, but I just did not believe them. I felt that I would be stuck in that hell hole indefinately. But I think if you don't have any serious depression / self esteem issues, then you should see improvement. Everyone works on their own timeframe, so be patient. One thing that is reiterated so much here is no contact. And I suggest very very very strongly to go no contact." (Smile) Told you so. Ut, I've wondered about your situation many times since I last saw you on the board -and yes- I *do* most certainly agree that readers of this update to your situation should, indeed, read through your previous posts. You were one of the 'worst case scenarios' I can recall since I have been visiting this forum. To put it quiet plainly, you hit *rock bottom*, -not once, but a *few* times and a couple of those times, I actually was concerned beyond the norm, for you. I'm glad to see that you are doing much, much better. And I thank you sincerely, for answering back to this board with your story of progress, and continuing recovery. UT, I wish you all the best there is to offer, and want you to know that just hearing your good report has put an especially big smile on my face this evening. I am both proud -and relieved- to hear of your success in recovery. Thank you, again, -for sharing the results of your experience back to this board. There are others, I know, who could use your inspiration right about now. Sincerely Yours, -Rio
fooled Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 Way to go, man! Tonight is the 6th month anniversary. It's kinda been a weird day - I've thought about her more today than in the past 2 months combined. Don't want her back though. I'm happy now.
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