figgurinoutlife Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 I had gone into NC a week ago without telling my ex why. Over the past two years since we've been broken up she has made me false promises of getting back with me, has told me she is still in love w/me, while dating other people. She has lead me on for a long time and I just snapped this past week and went NC. Well she has been bugging me the last couple days wondering what she did since I wasnt speaking to her, so finally I texted her that I sent her an email explaining why I went NC. She sent me a text back saying she didn't have aol email anymore and that she didn't get it. I wanted to find out if she was lying so I texted our mutual friend Cynthia (she hates me talking to Cynthia because she has a slight crush on me), and I asked her what my ex's email was, and it was through yahoo now, so she gave me the new address. Well my ex found out that I called Cynthia and she sent me a text that said "**** off. I don't want your stupid email. Text Cynthia, I don't care. I will fall off the face of the earth and die!" I replied back that I just needed an email address cause you asked or an explanation of why I wasn't talking to you. I sent the email to your yahoo address. Read it or don't read it, it's up to you. Here's what I wrote in the email: So you really wanna know why I'm not talking to you? To protect myself and my feelings from hurt. This crap's gone on too long between us. Ever since we broke up 2 years ago you have been up and down, on and off w/me, telling me your in love w/me, even saying you want me back then running to someone else. This crap is old and you've done nothing but play w/my feelings. I'm not dealing w/it anymore, you don't seem to have any respect or regard for my feelings, instead you use them for a safetly net incase you need someone to fall back on - it ain't love your showing me. I'm 27 years old, I have goals and dreams and have my **** together, and frankly I'm too old for this childish crap. I'm not waiting around on someone who doesnt want to share those dreams w/me. I know what I want and who I am. Just let me get over you and move on with someone who does want what I have to offer and who does want to be happy. If a person is truly in love w/someone, nothing will stop that person, and sweetheart, you have stopped. By the way I think you've got plenty of safety nets so one that wised up and left shouldn't hurt ya. Then she sent me a text back later saying ****you!" Then another one that said "You are too ***** to ask me for my email address, just **** off you inconsiderate ***hole. You have no idea what my feelings are, you make me sick." (I'm not sure if she had already read the email when she sent this text). And the last text I said to her was "You can hate me all you want but I thought you needed to know the crap I've been through and my side of the story, and how I feel, but you don't care about my feelings and what I've gone through. It's all about you. I don't know what your feelings are? I think they are that you hate me now and don't give a crap after I express myself about how I feel. Big Surprise. ****off!. Well that is that, she wanted to know so I spilled it, now she's pissed. Was the email to harsh? Or was it okay. Did I do the right thing? Think she'll hate me forever or will i finally get some respect?
rkman Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 My only impression is that she is a spoiled little woman who is used to getting things her way. She got told and her only reaction was to be angry at the delivery boy instead of the source (ie herself).
jerbear Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 You did what you had to do, after two years. You will get some respect but not the girl. I am sure that is not what you are after now anyway. Congrats on standing up and not putting up with her anymore.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 I'm sorry, but you sound incredibly imature! Geeze. And you are 27??? Actually, I think it was she who dumped you! (In case you are still confused, that email was just a bunch of nonsense. I don't know what girl with any mental capacity would take you seriously with that crap! )
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 Oh. And your email lacks 'punch' (aka it was completely lame.) And she's supposedly 'pissed off' by that?? You give yourself waayyy too much credit.
Sup Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 RUN FARRRR AWAY FROM THIS CHIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Someone else likes you, Hmmm.
pippen_2k Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 By the sound of things, these text message wars have just began! Gonna be impossible to rekindle anything after this. Take ur dignity and run!
BrandonBP Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 Dude, I think you did just fine. Now the only problem is is how to follow up. If she doesn't give a s*** about you, then she'll not respond and you can have your closure finally (thank God). On the other hand, if she's been stringing you along as a backup, she's going to start calling and emailing and texting. Don't give her the satisfaction of answering the phone. I'm no huge fan of NC but in the right circumstances and I'd say that this is a PRIME example of a huge bitch needing some NC. She's been s***ting on you for two years!? Holy crap! Make her feel like you've felt all that time. You must be a good guy to love that girl for two years while she crapped on you. I truly wish you well and I'll pray for you tonight. To me she sounds like a really selfish ass and you need to go NC and let her come crawling to you on her knees and beg you to come back. If she doesn't do that, then to hell with her and her crap. Good luck, buddy.
jerbear Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 You must be a good guy to love that girl for two years while she crapped on you. I truly wish you well and I'll pray for you tonight. To me she sounds like a really selfish ass and you need to go NC and let her come crawling to you on her knees and beg you to come back. If she doesn't do that, then to hell with her and her crap. Could not have said it better.
Author figgurinoutlife Posted July 5, 2006 Author Posted July 5, 2006 Little disrespectful and harsh "knowhowlovefeels." If you know how love feels then maybe you should learn to show it more than being so disrespectful and immature - how old are you. By the way it was her that dumped me - 2 years ago. As for everyone else thank you for supporting me. I do feel the email was the right thing to do and I don't think I could have said it any better.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Little disrespectful and harsh "knowhowlovefeels." If you know how love feels then maybe you should learn to show it more than being so disrespectful and immature - how old are you. By the way it was her that dumped me - 2 years ago. I am 33 and I post quite frequently on this forum. I don't usually respond with such harsh sarcasm... but something about your post was just not right. And I always call it the way I see it. I don't sugarcoat. I do ignore most dumb posts... but something about your post just strikes a nerve... I mean, come on! How is that email going to make you look 'cool' .. *cough*. You sound like a complete dweeb! So this girl dumped you 2 years ago... and you just worked up the nerve to tell her that she's mistreated you??? Hello? Did you lose a connection somewhere??? What exactly are you trying to accomplish with that crude email of yours????????? If you wanted to amuse me, you did that! hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.............
fabulousgal Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Dude, You don't sound lame. Screw this chick thats mistreated you for the last 2 years, its easy when your in love, to fall into that trap when you've never heard of things like NC. I'd almost say that the email was not required, you could have just ignored her, but at least you got some feelings out. I did this too with my ex, and he did call me afterwards so I didn't feel like I made myself look like a loser. In fact she in your case is the loser! FG
Ukwizard Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 Sorry mate, but your NC kind of back fired. Well she has been bugging me the last couple days wondering what she did since I wasnt speaking to her, so finally I texted her that I sent her an email explaining why I went NC I dont think the text or the email was necessary. No contact means no contact, and it you dont have to let her know about it. Remember she dumped you, and to tell her that you are doing NC, which in turn gets her pissed off then, your dumped all over again! Im sorry my friend but I think you lost out on this one. Shes not coming back especially with all that bad language. I think you deserve more, and I think to hang around for 2 years is way too long. Find someone else that apprecaites for who you are. Shes been dating other people, and so should you!
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