MrPot Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 I got dumped about a month ago. It's ok; I'm over it. However, just days before we ended it, a certain lady approached me in a club and made my ex very, very jealous. She's a knockout who has been an acquaintance of mine for a year or two. She hadn't seen me in months, and she saw me, ran up to me, hugged me, and said "Babe! It's been so long! I'm single now!" All this with my livid girlfriend right next to me. She had apparently broken up with her own bf about a month ago. Anyway, within a couple weeks I made a post on her "LiveJournal" and she responded with "You should call me some time :P" I informed her that I didn't have her number, so she should call me. Within a day, I received a message while at work saying "Now you have my number, so you should call me," or something to that effect. I posted on her LJ AGAIN pointing out that since my phone was off, I didn't retrieve her number. She called again the next day with a playful message saying "If you don't want to talk to me or hang out with me, you can just say so. You're always like 'My phone was off, my phone was off, oh oh oh.' In case your phone is off again, I'll leave you my number...... I think that's it, not positive because.... I don't usually call myself. I'm pretty sure that's it though. Also, wanted to let you know, I'll be up at [a certain club] tonight, and it would be awesome if you could make it. This is [name] by the way. Talk to you later, maybe." Saw her that night, she was mildly flirty. She called me a couple more times over the next couple days, and I was sure to keep the conversations short and end them myself. On that night, I informed her about a party I was attending on Saturday, and asked if she wanted to go. She made it, and while there, she and I spent most of the time together on a hammock onto which she invited me. While there, she fed me popcorn, fondled me a little, and generally played around. Once I thought she was ready to be kissed, so I did, and she let me do it but didn't really reciprocate. I paused, and said, "sorry if I got the wrong idea." She then proceeded to turn over and tongue me. She then said "Depends on what kind of idea you have." I said, "I don't have any ideas," and she said "Well then you're ok." We had a good, light conversation, but at one point I made the mistake of saying "We should go out some time" to which she replied "That's nice," which sounded like she wasn't too interested in the idea. However, she spent like the whole time with me, and when she left, she invited me to walk with her as she said her goodbyes, or said she'd find me before she left. I let her wander off and found her within about a minute and walked her to her car. She actually held my hand and kissed me a couple times before leaving. Sorry for the novel, but I'm wondering what her motivations are. She has a reputation as a playgirl, and I think she might just see me as a temporary plaything. I honestly wouldn't mind that at all, that's fun. I don't want a girlfriend right now anyway. My question is really this: I told her I'd call her, and she said "OK." She hasn't called me since then, and it's been 3 days. I'm thinking about calling her tonight. Should I ask her straightforwardly to go out, or should I ask try to plan for us to meet up somewhere again? Should I wait longer to call? It seems she's interested, but part of me doesn't want to push my luck and pressure her into some "dating" situation when she might not be comfortable with that.
ctallen23 Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 sorry to hear about your dilemma bro. It seems as though she was testing you that night on the hammock with the kissing and her asking you what you had in mind. I would call her tonight or tomorrow night and see what she says. It seems that she was into you for a couple of days and then showed up at the party. You should jsut tell her that you aren't looking for anything serious or wanting to date but to hangout and see what happens for the summer. Gotta live life in the moment and have fun.
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