Stunner Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 I recently met a new man who I feel is going to be a boyfriend. We met, sort of, online. I'll explain briefly...I saw his profile on this 'free' site where you only have the ability to 'flirt' with somene if you don't buy the package. Neither of us bought the package so that is all we did. I read that he lived in my area and we had some of the same interests. I knew it would only be a matter of time before we actually met accidentally. Sure enough, I met him last week...I did a triple check to make sure it was him and it was. He saw me spot him, I walked over smiling grandly and introduced myself and mentioned where I first saw him...we both got a great laugh over it. So we spent about three hours together after that....we really hit it off and went out on our first date a few days ago where things just proceeded to get better. Our first date we took a chance and went to an event that was an hour and a half away and wound up being together for five hours. The conversation was lively, fun and natural...we held hands after a couple of hours and when the sun went down he put his arm around my shoulder. We are both initiating contact since but not going overboard. He's very respectful and even asked if it was ok to call for a reason other than arranging our plans for this week. He seems to balance well between respect and confidence not going too far one way or another. I feel that my unusual interests that mirror his so closely have floored him and he's already thinking of me as a long term interest. Men, if you immediately feel a strong attraction/connection with a woman who you intend to keep long term....what is the proper timeline for sexual things to move along? I am in no rush this time as I don't wish to give the impression of being a floozy. But, I can't deny the strong physical attraction too. I am 37 and he is 44. He is an established businessman/ country boy with slight wild streak who was raised as a gentleman. Thoughts?
Craig Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 Men, if you immediately feel a strong attraction/connection with a woman who you intend to keep long term....what is the proper timeline for sexual things to move along? I am in no rush this time as I don't wish to give the impression of being a floozy. But, I can't deny the strong physical attraction too. I am 37 and he is 44. He is an established businessman/ country boy with slight wild streak who was raised as a gentleman. Thoughts?I think your chances of making a good decision regarding this slightly wild gentleman increases if you truly get to know him and his quirks before getting involved sexually. The reason is that sex does screw with your brain and his brain so if you are not compatible for a long term relationship sex will make it harder to figure that out. Besides, if it's meant to be then putting off sex for a while isn't going to change the outcome. Just my $0.02
Author Stunner Posted July 5, 2006 Author Posted July 5, 2006 Thanks for your input. I really like this person and want to make sure nothing gets screwed up early on...
FredTravels Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 At 37 and 44 (and I take offense to that "older" moniker) you can make your own decisions as to when it is right. You are not answering to anyone other than yourselves. 37 and 44 is not an age difference. I say if the opportunity presents itself and you both feel comfortable enough go for it. It might be after one date or it might be after a dozen.
johan Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 Not having sex screws with your brain, too. Not sure which is worse.
Craig Posted July 5, 2006 Posted July 5, 2006 Not having sex screws with your brain, too. Johan, johan, johan...sigh...this is why we have hands.
Author Stunner Posted July 5, 2006 Author Posted July 5, 2006 FredTravels, please don't take offense. I only mean 'older' so I don't get replies from 18 yr olds! LOL Also, for my 37 years I have only had sex with men in long term relationships and have been out of the dating thing for about 7-8 years. I am older, more mature and know what I want. Just because that is MY standard does not mean the majority of men feel the same way. I am just looking for some footing and some opinions outside the situation. I agree that we only have to answer to ourselves.
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