GW7147 Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 Hi All, In a nutshell, my ex and I dated for 6 months. everything was great. After a trip to Cancun, she decided she needed to deal with the repurcussion of her divorce and broke up with me in the middle of April. I've been NC for the past 2 months. She said she hadn't met anybody else etc.. This past Friday, I saw her son's best friend and he told me my ex had been dating somebody for the past month and she's getting married!!! I went out with friends tonight and had a good time but of course after I left and was driving home and began thinking about stuff ( how she lied saying she " was dead inside and had to work on herself etc...) I realized it was a bunch of crap and became infuriated. I was SOOOOO tempted to send her an email and tell her off or drive past her house (that would have done me a lot of good!!). I thought of LS and decided I needed to calm down and get some feedback and not have a kneejerk reaction. I know things between her and I are over. After she seperated from her husband, she dated somebody for 4 months, was going to marry him and get another house together (I thought that's kind of quick), she then met me and talked about marriage after about 2 months. Broke up with me and now met this new guy and is talking about getting nmarried after 4 weeks (so I'm told). I can see the obvious pattern but damn!! I'm having a difficult time with this. I don't know if I'm angry with myself for falling for her crap or what. I trying to be rational about this whole thing but my New York attitude is getting the best of me and I'm angry that she stabbed me in the back. I need the feedback fo my fellow LS'ers to regain my composure and get my feet back on the ground. Do I tell her off in an email and let her know I know what happened or what? Thanks guys. Regards, GW
Smung Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 Hi GW, Sorry to hear the news but that's what LS is for... To help. So are you sure that this kids accurate about your ex getting hitched? Could be that it's not. This also seems to be a behavior trait with your ex. Jumping from one guy to the next and moving too quickly too soon. I'm thinking it wont last! I personally would NOT send an email. Think about what you would want from that email? Revenge in some way? I dought you would get the response you would hope for. How goes the dating yourself? Get your friends out and have a good time. Make a point to say hello to a cute girl each day! I go to starbucks as there seems to be many there Get into a great hobbi that is new to you. I am talking up yoga with a girlfriend of mine(Don't ask, It was her idea not mine). Hang in there and don't do any mad writing!!
Yamaha Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 Feel happy things didn't work out as she has no idea what she wants or needs.
Author GW7147 Posted July 4, 2006 Author Posted July 4, 2006 Hey Smung/Yamaha, Thanks for the responses. Yeah, it was this past Friday that I saw the exes, son's friend. He's a good kid, has a head on his shoulders. He's 15 and is around my exes house quite a bit. He said she's been seeing this new guy for about a month now. I seem to believe what he said however, I realize my ex seems to jump feet first into relationships. She did it with me and the guy before me. At first, it confirmed for me that she's definitely not stable and I didn't feel as bad as I thought I would. I guess things just got the better of me tonight. I feel like a chump. I realize, I'm not immume to being rooked or taken for granted but the whole situation just chaps my a$$. As for my dating since the break-up, it's been non-existent. Initially, I wasn't interested. I recently received an email from a friend. He wants to introduce me to somebody he did photographs for. Antoher friend took me to a singles function tonight. I had a good time but after I left and headed home, my mind started wandering. It got the best of me and I got pretty agitated. I realze my ex is probably incapable of spending anytime on her own in order to deal with her divorce and won't be in ahealthy relationship until she does and had to latch on to somebody else in order to make herself feel better. And yes, she has no idea what she needs or wants in her life. It's just the whole scenario that she said she felt so content having me in her life, then said she needed to deal with her divorce and then, 4 weeks after the break-up she's dating again. I know she's a couple of clowns short of a circus, it's just eating me up inside. That's why I came to LS first. I knew if I did, I would cool down and get some sound advice from everybody. I just thought, she needed to know what kind of person she is. By sending an email, I could achieve that. I'm not looking for a repsonse, maybe looking to rub it in her face and try to make her feel like the piece of trash that she is by letting her know what kind of person she is.....
WithOrWithoutYou Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 You should feel lucky that you figured out her game, and you should also feel sorry for the poor bastard who is about to marry her, and is probably thinking all of the things you used to think about her, not knowing her pattern. You dodged a bullet. This woman definately has issues regarding her ex-husband. It is quite possible that she is not fully over him, and is looking to replace some of what she thinks she lost when she divorced her husband. Unfortunately, she is probably still figuring out just what it is that she misses, and that is probably why she is jumping from Mr. Right to Mr. Right ad infinitum hoping to recapture something she wants out of being married. It's kind of sad, but you are very fortunate that you will not be a part of it. No need to call or email her. Just feel sorry for them both, and move on.
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