A very, very sticky situation.

[Guest]

Any help here would be so much appreciated! I'm Laurel, by the way, and it's lovely to meet everyone. I'm sorry my story is so long but I can use any help I can get!

 

I work at a restaurant, and about a year ago I met this girl named Olivia and her (live in) boyfriend, Jordan. At the time I was going through a really rocky two year long relationship and Olivia and Jordan were both always there to help me out. I can't count the number of times I slept on their couch, or cried and drank all the liquor in their freezer. ;-) Finally, I said ADIOS to the jerk that was killing me slowly on the inside. Olivia and Jordan's lease was up, and they found a cute duplex they wanted to rent. Olivia and I would be living on one side, Jordan and his friend on the other side.

 

In the past few months, Jordan and Olivia and I would hardly spend a night apart. People who knew us thought we were all swingers and having threesomes every night, but it wasn't like I blamed them for thinking that, because it seemed that way. We take our days off together, go to the beach, sleep in the same bed. Our coworkers refer to us as "the family".

 

Then one night, we were all sleeping in their apartment, (weeks before we move into this duplex), and I felt Jordan sort of holding me, I guess. Then he put his hand on my leg (this is all while Olivia is next to him!). I didn't say anything about it the next morning, just pretended it didn't happen. Then, a couple of nights later, he did it again. I did something terrible, and I turned around and kissed him, and we got quite into it. Then we snuck into another room and had sex. Afterward we sat outside and smoked cigarettes and laughed and talked about it for at least three hours.

 

Then, two days later, Olivia was kind of drunk and told us she thought it would be funny if Jordan and I had sex. Then she got completely serious about it, handed me a condom, and told me she'd see me in about an hour. So we took her seriously, and had sex AGAIN in the next room over.

 

Of course, the next day she was sort of disgusted about the whole thing. She's gotten over it by now...but the worst part is, Jordan and I are still sneaking around behind her back. I always had a secret infatuation with him but always left it on the back burner until now. And every time I think about him with Olivia, I get this horrible sick jealous feeling in my stomach. One time I even puked when she told me something they did without me...isn't that awful? It was just something dumb like, they went to a movie or something, but I didn't feel like a third wheel until that moment.

 

Today Jordan told me that this was all it could ever be between him and I...sex and best buds and that's it. He told me that nothing else could ever develop from this, because he loves Olivia and he loves me too but not like that. I said I understood completely, I mean...I'm going to be LIVING with her in about a week! Imagine the atrocities if he broke up with her for me! I was also kind of offended by Jordan and my little talk because I didn't think I implied that I wanted it to be more. I guess I did. And now I'm just sitting here in my parents' house feeling disgusted and sick and jealous, and knowing they're together without me is making me feel nauseous.

 

So, yes. This is the kind of story that movies are made of. i'm just kind of curious what the ending is going to be. Any advice right now would be so completely appreciated.

 

Also, I ask you this... if you really love someone and truly want to be with them and only them, why would you constantly cheat on them? I mean, I know I'm no better because Olivia is my best friend...but still. I feel so sick inside about it.

 

Thanks for listening ;-)

Love , Laurel

[Outcast]

if you really love someone and truly want to be with them and only them, why would you constantly cheat on them?

 

Because you're a horndog, because you think that you should get things you want just because you want them, and because you're positive you can get away with it.

[Nicholas]

I'm Nick, nice to meet you too. If you imagine us to be a bunch of dorks who love reading this stuff, you're right. Your story's not that long, and it's pretty interesting. Plus your syntax is solid and your paragraphs are solid, we couldn't ask for more (or less, haha.)

 

Anyway, you totally need to find your own place. I know that's a bummer, but it's less of a bummer than being in the middle of a situation that ran its course.

 

You want Jordan. Jordan wants Olivia. Jordan cheats. So here's your ending: Jordan will cheat on Olivia with someone besides you. Olivia will forgive him the first two times, then stuff will get ugly(ier).

 

Just remember how you got written into this screenplay. You were a bit messed up and you got taken care of by some friends. Well, now things are a bit messed up again, the best you can do to repay them is not be the one to blame.

 

As for the motives, your friends are a bit nutty. It doesn't make them bad people, though it might lead them to do bad things. As for why he cheated--it's because when he put his hand on your leg, you liked it, and he's a guy. It's also possible that "he loves Olivia and he loves me too but not like that" is a euphemism for "things would be easier if they weren't harder."

 

Anyway, all I'm saying is the fuse has been lit. Stand at a safe distance.

[ashnicole]

I just hope Olivia doesn't find out about any of this while you guys are living together. I just wonder if Jordan is as willing to hide it from her as you are. I wouldn't doubt it if he got up enough guts to tell her that there were other times, besides the time that she knows about. Then it's all over for you, my dear. I just hope you don't ever have to be put in a situation like this, where your boyfriend is cheating on you with you guys' best friends. That's pretty s***ty of you, honestly.