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Hmm...o.k.,,well, that helps. It tells me that he isn't 100% against having children.

unless he's a moron he has to know that unprotected sex may lead to children...

 

Continue NC?

yes...

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Thanks for the advice. I'll stick to NC. Given the situation, do I continue with NC until he contacts me? Any guesses on how much time this requires on a guy's part (the pondering of it)? Again, I just don't want to set myself up for a big fall believing that he is soul-searching while asking me to wait on the mortgage when really he has it figured out already.

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No Dont Call, I Will Tell You Why In A Minute, Hold Strong!

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Hi Dev, great advice alpha and I agree that if a man doesn't want to have kids he would be insistant on birth controll.. You have been so strong untill today! What happended today that you want to call so bad?

 

Althouth, I'm the same way, i guess nothing has to happen for us to want to make contact.

 

Remember, if you were to call you may get a reaction your not ready to accept, or he may be distant. Sometimes (for me) if I get any type of rejection it send me into a tail spin and i'm back at square one... He holds all the power right now and he knows it! Hold off calling until morning and then we can see how your doing.. your way too emotional right now! right?

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Man, you guys are great! Thanks for the reinforcement! Rob, the reason I was going to cave today is because I have too much damn time on my hands to think. Being a teacher, I have the summers off. I seriously think I need a part-time job.

 

GUESS WHAT? He just called me. I didn't know if I should pick up, but I did. He just called to "see how I was doing", he chatted about work, the July 4th weekend, etc. He said he misses me sometimes... I casually and humerously said "sometimes, huh?" And he responded "actually, a lot." He also said that his friends (actually became OUR friends) are perceiving this as a break between us and not that it's actually done. WTF?

 

He said "he hopes it wasn't a bad thing that he called" and I said "it would have been a bad thing if you had called to tell me that you want to close on the mortgage." He just laughed and said "no".

 

Now, I don't know what to think. What's going on here? Was that a call to see if I'm still here waiting for him or what?

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Be careful girl!!! He has got all the power right now, you need to get some of it back!! I know your jumping up for joy right now and I'm glad!! Don't get your hopes up to high things can change in the morning....but i hope not..Rob

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