lovelorcet Posted July 3, 2006 Posted July 3, 2006 I was just wondering what people’s thoughts were as far as a timetable when it comes to falling in love with someone. I have been spending a lot of time with a wonderful woman over the last 2-3 months or so and everything just seems to click. I honestly wasn’t expecting something like this when I first started seeing her but I think I have fallen pretty hard now. We have talked about this and the feelings are mutual. So can you really set a timeframe on something like this or is it even necessary when both people involved seem to be moving at the same speed? All comments would be greatly appreciated...
stronggirl Posted July 3, 2006 Posted July 3, 2006 I was just wondering what people’s thoughts were as far as a timetable when it comes to falling in love with someone. I have been spending a lot of time with a wonderful woman over the last 2-3 months or so and everything just seems to click. I honestly wasn’t expecting something like this when I first started seeing her but I think I have fallen pretty hard now. We have talked about this and the feelings are mutual. So can you really set a timeframe on something like this or is it even necessary when both people involved seem to be moving at the same speed? All comments would be greatly appreciated... I don't think there is a timetable, everyone is different. I do know that my boyfriend tiold me, with googly eyes, that he loved me at three months, and then at six months proceeded to tell me he loved me but was not IN love with me, and dumped me. So, er, um.........depends.
Poboy Posted July 3, 2006 Posted July 3, 2006 There is never a time frame when you can say that you are in Love. There is a difference between liking a person deeply & love. Only you can make the judgement of whether it is love or something else. 2 - 3 months is a small period ... initially , everyone tries to put their best face forward to charm their partner , its only after spending a long period of time , you will understand things better. If you are in love , you will know it and 100 % sure of it. If its 99% , you are not in love but have to work to get it to 100 %...
Tony T Posted July 3, 2006 Posted July 3, 2006 I think, on average, it take two months, eight days, 5 hours and 23 minutes to fall in love. However, my watch may be off.
blind_otter Posted July 3, 2006 Posted July 3, 2006 IME everyone can either partially or completely hide their personality for approximately 3-6 months, depending on how much face time you get. I tend to hold off on even allowing myself to give in to those feelings until I am quite sure they aren't just waiting for me to let my guard down to tell me that they used to be a porn star or are being medicated for some kind of psychosis. People tend to hide that kind of info early in the relationship because they think (rightly) that it will turn you off and dissuade you from pursuing the relationship. I'm just saying.
Outcast Posted July 3, 2006 Posted July 3, 2006 If you read these boards long enough, you'll see that tons of people believe themselves to be in love in the 2-3 month period only to realize another 6 or so months later that they've 'fallen out of love'. I would not trust any feelings I had that early, myself. If it's real love, it will strengthen and grow over time. If you feel the same way when a year has passed, then you can maybe think you are actually in love and not in the early stages of chemical-induced infatuation.
crystallizedrose Posted July 3, 2006 Posted July 3, 2006 I think, on average, it take two months, eight days, 5 hours and 23 minutes to fall in love. However, my watch may be off. I just laughed out loud at this and the whole office turned around to stare at me.
stronggirl Posted July 3, 2006 Posted July 3, 2006 If you read these boards long enough, you'll see that tons of people believe themselves to be in love in the 2-3 month period only to realize another 6 or so months later that they've 'fallen out of love'. I would not trust any feelings I had that early, myself. If it's real love, it will strengthen and grow over time. If you feel the same way when a year has passed, then you can maybe think you are actually in love and not in the early stages of chemical-induced infatuation. i think you are totally right. that is why, when my boyfriend did tell me he loved me, i was a little taken aback. why do people feel they need to throw that word around, only to yank it back once out of the throes of chemistry. the crazy thing is, when he said it, i felt it too though. the only difference is that i didn't fall out of it.
Author lovelorcet Posted July 4, 2006 Author Posted July 4, 2006 Maybe this sound kind of corny but I always thought falling in love is like planting a seed of a tree. With a lot of time and care it can grow into a large stable entity with many thick branches and capable of withstanding all kinds of weather. Or it can be forgotten or even hacked up at any given point if that is what someone chooses. I guess I am most interested in when you know you placed the seed in the soil and started to water and care for it. Not sure if any of this is really making sense but it seems to fit in my head…
ashnicole Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 It all depends on how much time you spend together, how well you knew eachother before you started "talking/dating"... etc. I wouldn't say that 2-3 months is really all that uncommon for younger people, or people in fresh relationships. I'd evaluate it, and see if it's really something you think you can say, 100%, or if you're just more infatuated with this person more than anything.
Brittanyjean06 Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 Just like all the previous posts, there is no time frame. We are all different, just like there is no time frame on getting over someone I hate when people put these mathmatical things like oh if you went out for so and so for this long it will take half of this, Um NO way lol It's all up to you, on how you fall for someone and how you get over them.
jerbear Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 People have different speeds and time frames. I have fallen head of heels overnight and that lasted for 2 years to those I didn't like, befriended her then took 1 year to realize we both fallen. It could be anytime but if you never talked or even have a face to face it would be more infatuation than love.
Recommended Posts