jorgeajorge73 Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 I gave one year and a half to someone who I thought was special, caring, and loving. I found myself working two jobs paying for her house and the bills. Alone with cleaning it, doing laundry, mowing the lawn, washing her car, cooking for her, and on and on. You think that everything you do means something. Within a matter of months she's staying out late and at times not coming home at all. Always indicating that she's with her friends. The puzzle only came together in a matter of time as the lies only piled up on her. She continued seeing her ex boyfriend and sleeping with him among other men. The pain to caused me, that she put me through will be hard to forget. She wanted to start things over, wanting a fresh start. On the same night I go to her house without her knowledge as I phoned her needing her comfort. Rushing me off that it can wait until tomorrow and that's she tired. I arrive only to find her with another guy sharing a beer sitting next to eachother. Telling me that he's only a friend. Even I who has female friends don't find myself sitting next to them sharing a drink. I no longer talk or see her at all. Sometimes I feel like going to her house and giving her a piece of my mind. Everytime I think about her, it makes me sick wishing that I would have never met her. I'm doing my best to move on. Are there true and honest people out there who have values and morals? It makes me turn away and to not allow myself to open my heart to anyone else. Does true and honest love exist or am I just a fool for wanting it?
Pyro Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 I gave one year and a half to someone who I thought was special, caring, and loving. I found myself working two jobs paying for her house and the bills. Alone with cleaning it, doing laundry, mowing the lawn, washing her car, cooking for her, and on and on. You think that everything you do means something. Within a matter of months she's staying out late and at times not coming home at all. Always indicating that she's with her friends. The puzzle only came together in a matter of time as the lies only piled up on her. She continued seeing her ex boyfriend and sleeping with him among other men. The pain to caused me, that she put me through will be hard to forget. She wanted to start things over, wanting a fresh start. On the same night I go to her house without her knowledge as I phoned her needing her comfort. Rushing me off that it can wait until tomorrow and that's she tired. I arrive only to find her with another guy sharing a beer sitting next to eachother. Telling me that he's only a friend. Even I who has female friends don't find myself sitting next to them sharing a drink. I no longer talk or see her at all. Sometimes I feel like going to her house and giving her a piece of my mind. Everytime I think about her, it makes me sick wishing that I would have never met her. I'm doing my best to move on. Are there true and honest people out there who have values and morals? It makes me turn away and to not allow myself to open my heart to anyone else. Does true and honest love exist or am I just a fool for wanting it? I am sorry for your pain. I believe that some cheaters can change for the better. Don't let one bad relationship discourage you from moving on in hopes of finding true love. She is only one girl out of millions and millions. Everyone is different. True love very much exists.
MendedWing Posted July 3, 2006 Posted July 3, 2006 I'm sorry for your pain...but to answer your question, yes there are true people out there who would definately appreciate the things you were doing, and who believe in real love. I am one of them...but I find myself in the same boat as you...doubting everything after getting thrown out to the trash my husband for another woman. I did the same thing you did, bent over backwards to please him. The less appreciative he was, it seems I would just keep doing more, waiting for him to notice, or return the treatment. It never happened. I still do believe there is hope out there though, so don't give up..and I'll let you know if I ever find it.
Mz. Pixie Posted July 3, 2006 Posted July 3, 2006 There are numerous posts about this subject. Do a search. Once a cheater is not always a cheater, no. Some people are serial cheaters though. I think alot has to depend on when they cheating happened, myself. Someone cheating early in a relationship/marriage- well to me that means why would you keep them? I would be way more understanding of someone who cheated after a long time marriage where there were some problems. Sounds like this girl was just using you. Don't waste time thinking about why- just get out and find someone worthy of your attention.
Curmudgeon Posted July 3, 2006 Posted July 3, 2006 Does true and honest love exist or am I just a fool for wanting it? Sometimes it just take awhile to find the right person who believes in it also. You had a bad experience but that just defines her, not all women.
Guest Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 Sure sincere love exists: you did it yourself, didn't you? Just try someone else.
RecoverMe Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Yes, I think true and honest love does exist, but often times those who are capable of it are with those who are incapable of it. (myself being the honest one and my husband cheating on me) It is almost as if he believes the lies he is telling and his Bill Clintonesque answers to some pretty basic questions. I am torn as to whether I should stay or go. He has sworn he has cut it off with her, but there are so many loose ends, and my trust completely shattered. we have been married for 13 years and have two kids, one who is autistic and probably the big strain on our marriage which pushed him towrads the affair. sorry to ramble. but I think you're going to be ok, as long as you are honest with yourself and keep your expectations at the level in which you feel you are honored and respected as you should be in a loving relationship. hope that helps,
Guest Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Yes, there are tru and honest people out here - I in a similar way have been abused however by my husband I love & adore. He has had a personal webs add meeting and having sex with women for years - unprotected. I am devastated adn in counciling. Be thankful you did not marry or have children with a person who obviously did not value themself, love themself or you. Self love should not be confused with selfishness. I pray for your recovery and healing. I gave one year and a half to someone who I thought was special, caring, and loving. I found myself working two jobs paying for her house and the bills. Alone with cleaning it, doing laundry, mowing the lawn, washing her car, cooking for her, and on and on. You think that everything you do means something. Within a matter of months she's staying out late and at times not coming home at all. Always indicating that she's with her friends. The puzzle only came together in a matter of time as the lies only piled up on her. She continued seeing her ex boyfriend and sleeping with him among other men. The pain to caused me, that she put me through will be hard to forget. She wanted to start things over, wanting a fresh start. On the same night I go to her house without her knowledge as I phoned her needing her comfort. Rushing me off that it can wait until tomorrow and that's she tired. I arrive only to find her with another guy sharing a beer sitting next to eachother. Telling me that he's only a friend. Even I who has female friends don't find myself sitting next to them sharing a drink. I no longer talk or see her at all. Sometimes I feel like going to her house and giving her a piece of my mind. Everytime I think about her, it makes me sick wishing that I would have never met her. I'm doing my best to move on. Are there true and honest people out there who have values and morals? It makes me turn away and to not allow myself to open my heart to anyone else. Does true and honest love exist or am I just a fool for wanting it?
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