lizzieTM Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 im still hungup on my ex. he left me because he couldnt cope when his ex moved back to town. we'd been together about 3 months. Im still finding things hard. Is that normal? I mean i did the worst thing possible by going to a concert together that we'd bought tickets for when we were together. At the concert he said "Dont take this the wrong way.. but you look beautiful tonight" then at the end of the night hugged me and said that he was really glad that i decided to still go. but i wish i could say the same thing. I dont think it did me anygood. I was drunk when i arrived home and stupidly text him, saying that i wasnt over the whole break up thing and that i was sorry. (ive been told that i apologise too much) the next day he told me in no uncertain terms that i needed to get over it and he wasnt been funny but he didnt want me to text him again when id been drinking, its not even like i didnt regret it because i did. Argh its just so frustrating. Is this a normal way for a break up to go? i mean i cant stop thinking about him even though he's been a total idiot throughout this. He seems to be getting on with things a lot better than i am. i feel stupid and like im nagging or left on the shelf when he asks what ive been up to. And im still suffering from the outbursts of tears.
AriaIncognito Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 Unfortunately, what you're feeling is natural. When we lose someone, we try to get them back, despite all the obvious signs that we aren't going to win that fight. I've been fighting that battle for like 10 days now and well, it's not gonna work. I keep trying to tell myself it wont, but yet that provides little solace and my heart keeps trying to string me along with hope. Your best bet is to go back to no contact. Tell him it hurts too much to be in contact, and try your best to move on. That's what I did today. Sorry you're hurting. It does suck, but it's gotta get better eventually. Jennifer
Diver012 Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 Its been a few months for me as well. I go through very sad times, other times I feel a lot stronger. It will go back and forth. I think NC is your best option here. Why would you want someone back that reject you because an Ex came back in town? You deserve someone more devoted to you than that. It just takes time. Fall back on your family and your friends and of course, your friends here at LS.
PeanutHead88 Posted July 3, 2006 Posted July 3, 2006 Well It takes more than just a cuple of months and if you truely loved them it will take maybe one year or 2 years or 3. My guess is he still loved his ex there for his feelings for you were not strong enough to hurt him best thing to do is not to text him and to move on to someone who loves you the way you love them
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