London Girl Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 [sIZE=2][sIZE=2]I met my ex boyfriend in 2004 through mutual friends and we dated for nearly two years. He met me 7 months after his wife left him and he asked me out. He's been divorced for about a year now. He does not have any feelings for his ex wife. We had a good relationship which was full of laughter, love, affection etc. We both told each other we loved each other and he even said that he could not believe his luck that he met someone so perfect and could see himself settling down with me. During the second year of our relationship, things became difficult, I had to work long hours to raise extra money and as a result I was tired, stress and not fun to be around and we did not go out as much. I am 31 and my ex is 34. In January 2006, he said he was not happy and that he has this gut feeling that it will not work out between us and he could not see a future with me which suprised me since he told me he loved me the week before! He was really upset, crying etc. - he seemed more upset than me. He basically came up with so many excuses, that I was not bubbly or outgoing anymore and that he just cannot figure out why he has negative feelings about me. He said it will take him a long time to find another girl with the same qualities as me. Between January and May, we met up occassionally, I used to instigate meeting up and so did he. When we met up we had fun and he was always affectionate towards me. The last time we met, HE instigated meeting up. He invited me to his dad's birthday dinner and was affectionate towards me infront of his parents and family so I thought we were getting back together. Two days laters, he calls me to say that he feels really guilty that he is still having doubts about me, that he is 75-80% happy with me and that I should find a guy that does not have any doubts about me. I found out a week later that he has signed up on a internet dating site, looking for girls who are fun, outgoing, adventurous etc. I am devasted and am still finding it hard to move on. I called him the other day after not being in contact with each over for two months to arrange to pick up my stuff from his house as he's bought a new house and I thought he might be moving to his new house soon. He still have things round my flat and still has my flat keys but have not asked to exchange belongings! Anyway, we talked on the phone for nearly two hours, chatting and having a laugh- nothing heavy. I did not wanted to talk as long but he prolong the conversation by asking me various questions. I told him to give me a call when he knows when he will be moving to his new house so I can pick up my belongings. Do you think there is any chance he will come back to me? The reason I ask is that: 1. We still have each other's belongings including keys and he has not asked for us to exchange belongings. 2. He has ended our relationship before but has always come back to me. 3. Even right to the last minute, he tells me he misses me, that I am beautiful, we get on and just cannot figure out why he has doubts about our relationship. Any advice would be grateful. Thanks! [/sIZE][FONT=Arial][sIZE=2][COLOR=#0000ff][/COLOR][/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][sIZE=2] [/sIZE][/FONT][sIZE=2] [/sIZE][/sIZE]
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