AugustDreams Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 Well, to give some quick background... I'm 24, and my boyfriend is 23. I'm a single mother, he's a college student still living at home for financial convienience. No big deal, I think he's the luckiest bastard on earth. I moved out at 19, struggled through school, and here I am today. However, his parents are overly controlling and dare I say, neurotic. The man has a 1:30am curfew and isn't allowed to spend the night at my place. Also, the dad doesn't think I'm worthy of the son and spent at least 6 weeks telling my boyfriend, 2 or 3 times per week, why he didn't think we should be together. Very rude stuff, said he didn't think I would "make it" in life, questioned my motives, insinuated I was "Daddy Shopping", and so on. At one point, they had him convinced that he needed to dump me. He came over and tried, I reversed the situation with pure logic, then a week later the stress became so bad that he did dump me. We spent a month apart before he came back, begging for forgiveness and a second try. I'm dumb, I say yes, I love the guy and figure I'm not dating his parents. He vows to stand up for himself and demand fair treatment. (It's been nearly a month and he still hasn't figured out how to tell them that he came after me). If you can guess, this hasn't happened either. Still a curfew, still the yelling and verbal berating when he stays out until 2 or 3am. But that's not really the icing on the cake for me, I suppose. I could ignore that problem after a while here. As soon as they know I exist again, I'll breathe a little easier and not feel like I'm sneaking around or in high school again. So much drama. My real question : how much golf is too much golf? The guy has a serious... passion... for it. He's currently working maintenence on a golf course and plays on the driving range at least 3 times a week for a couple hours a shot, then plays 18 holes 2 or 3 times a week as well, if not more. Before the temporary separation, he was on the golf team at his college and I had several incidents where I would ask him to come over on a Friday in the afternoon (when I had a half day or something at work) because he said "practice is optional today", but he would end up going alone anyway and dash any plans I had tentatively made. He constantly talks about golf, though he's well aware that I have no idea what he's talking about, and he even knows that after about 5-10 minutes of a golf shot story I start zoning out. Despite this, I still spent 40 minutes Friday evening listening to him talk nonstop about golf and golf courses he's been to,etc. I'm a nice girlfriend, I go to the golf shops and look at clubs and wistfully ponder if I'm ever going to get a proposal when he spends all of his extra cash on putters and drivers that cost more than any baubles I ever buy, but where the heck is the line supposed to be? Now he swears up and down that he's madly in love with me, and I really believe him most of the time, but I wonder if this golf thing alone is going to drive me mad. He wakes up at 5:30am to go to work, plays golf til 6pm, then is too tired to do anything else, but this doesn't seem to register. I used to find this golf thing very cute, I still even like watching him play when I'm 'allowed', but it seems overboard to me... and quite expensive to boot for a college student who works lower paying jobs in the meantime. Is it worth calling it quits over? Or should I just confront him and demand a day of the week to call our own, no golf, no parents? Opinions very welcome, thank you for reading my vent if you made it this far. Liz
Outcast Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 Ohhhh lordy! Please tell me you're kidding! A guy who can't stand up to mommy and daddy and accepts having his life run by them at 23 AND is golf-obsessed? RUN AWAY from this guy before you fall for him. He is not long-term material in any way, shape, or form.
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