fraidycat Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 Well, I am having a hard time with this problem I have. I am deeply bothered that I am this way. Let me explain, I met a great guy..not great because he's "so cute" or "so loaded" No, sure he is attractive and has a well paying job, but I find him great for more important reasons such as..kind to me, considerate, fights fair, stable job and enviroment. This guy is awesome. I beleive I love him but I did not tell him this. Instead he told me first and that's when BAM I went cold, froze, numb, freaked out, panic'd. Whole 10 yards. This isn't the first this has happened and it seems to be a re occuring theme. I have been hurt in past relationships but I always assumed since I harbored no sour or ill feelings towards exes, I wasn't still hoping to reconcile with them, or wishful delusions that I "belong together" with any of them I had put all that behind me. The thing is I must be totally screwed up now and I don't understand why I am doing this behavior. Anyone know how I feel or has been in my shoes or feel they have any useful advice to offer?
ashnicole Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 If you don't love him, don't say it back... number one. Also, maybe the reason you're so afraid of those words is because you've been hurt in the past. Don't let old relationships affect your new ones... that won't get you anywhere. I did that for the LONGEST time... and all of them failed. I brought old memories/fears into my new relationships, and I couldn't handle it. I saw all these guys as the same person, and it shouldn't have been that way.
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