my ex's colleague in contact with me... what does it mean

[sweetyetbitter]

I've been talking to a chatter a few days back. He was so curious about my my daily and weekend activities. I just answered that i just stay at home surfing and blogging rather than going out a lot. He shows signs of concern on me. After we've exchanged e-mail addresses, I was so surprised that he was my ex's colleague thru friendster...

 

 

The good thing was I was cautious of not opening any topic about my ex who cheated on me 6 months ago. He didn't even asked about my status whether I am in a relationship or just single. May be he does know something about me.

 

 

I am just wondering, why is he so concern and was so persistent in checking how I was doing. I kept on asking him those questions, he would just answer "I just wanna learn more things about you". Do you think my ex and he is up to something. I've NC with my ex for 2 months. If they are up to something... what do I do next?

[Poboy]

An important Q'n ...where did u meet him , just random chat or ?

 

Either he is into you and intrested in you or your Ex may be in this.

Talk or chat to this guy and try finding out subtly whats going on.

[Winfield]

Seems a bit coincidental, and a little creepy. He says he wants to "learn more things about you"? Doesn't he just ask the usual questions when you're getting to know someone, ie, shared interests?

 

His conversation seems a bit too personal too soon. If you're comfortable with that, fair enough, but I personally would take that as getting too familiar, especially at this stage.

 

And if your ex is involved in the background to these conversations, then that just shows you the type of guy he is (weirdo)! But, it hasn't been proven yet, so let's not hypothesise!

 

What do you do if that's the case? Well, if you're not getting any satisfactory answers from this guy you're corresponding with (ie, you keep getting palmed off with the "just want to know more about you"), stop corresponding. By avoiding your question, I think he's hiding something...

 

Anyhow, good luck!

[sweetyetbitter]

He just messaged me thru friendster. He mentioned not to worry cause i didn't know him. He just saw my profile and got interested with my pictures...His profile is only limited to his friends so I wasnt able to get view of it till he added me.

 

And if ever my ex is involved with this.... a few things popped into my mind....

1. He is concern because he still carries the guilt with him and wants to check out if i am OK... that would only be it.

2. His conscience would stop bothering him if he is assured that I have let it go and moved on.

3. He has realized my worth and wants to check if there's a possibility for a comeback...

4. He just wanted to fool around.

 

In my opinion, he should have not asked his colleague to check me out if he is so happy with his new girl. He shouldn't be bothering me cause he has caused to much damage especially lying on his cheating. May be his colleague would be his only way to check me out because his friends is no longer on his side. (they were with me when I caught him with another girl)

 

Since I dont know what his collegue is up to....I wont spill the milk bout my previous relationship.

 

I'm so confuse now. I am 50/50 moving on and stepping back... I didnt chat with him for 2 straight days. I am gathering data to what steps should I do next.

 

Your insights are highly appreciated.

[Poboy]

get involved only if you want to. if you are intrested in the new guy , take it forward and talk to him and find out whats going on. but if your skeptical of his intentions and possibility of your ex to be involved in someway , dont pursue this. You will only find out if you ask this guy , its your call

[rugbyrob1990]

Sweety, it to bad your going through this, however coming from a mans view its possible that is just hitting on you! Maybe your ex is behind this but I dought it, it sounds like he may have some real feelings for you.. Go with the flow and don't give an info but see where it goes/. How long did you guys date? Also, how did he win you back after you cought him cheating? Did you acually catch him in the act or did he fess up!

[rugbyrob1990]

Sorry about typo's!!

[sweetyetbitter]

he may have some real feelings for you: are you refering to his colleague?

 

My ex and I dated for 2.5 years. It was really a good relationship cause both our parents and friends favored it a lot. He just ended it without telling me the real reason was. I (with his friends) just caught him on the act with another girl, 3 months after of our breakup. He didn't even admitted that the girl was his GF. After the news had spread, another friend of our confessed that he saw the same girl i am describing with my ex when we are still in a relationship. There was no excuse for him for not telling the truth... so I've NC with him since the day I knew everything.