LoveConfused Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 Alright, Ive been in a relationship with a guy now for quite a while and I love him. but lately ive been feeling like my feelings for him have been changing and i feel as if i dont find him as attractive as i use to. Even sex hasn't been very good because I can't focus on us, i focus on what i am feeling about him. But to think of life without him hurts me and i dont want that. ive been having trouble sorting out my emotions and we are now on a break while i figure them out. i don't seem to know if my feelings are just the "new-ness" of the relationship wearing off, and im settling into it more or am i simply losing interest? Is this normal? if it is what can i do to make things alright again? I want to be with him but i dont know if i should try to make things work or what?...you have to help me. please! i want to save this relationship!
Touche Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 How long have you been with him? This is normal after awhile. The relationship does change. You can still create the spark again though. That "high" of a new relationship doesn't last forever. It gets replaced by an easy, secure familiarity. It's up to both of you to keep the "spark" going though. Continue to go on "dates." Be affectionate with each other and try to strive for a little variety as far as sex goes. I do question something though. You're either not ready for a long-term relationship now, or he's just not right for you. Think about it and maybe give it more time. You will have the answer in time.
superconductor Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 Is this normal? Yes, it's perfectly normal. The newness of first love wears off after a while, to be replaced by something more permanent and fulfilling. The transition is the most difficult part, and that's what you're in the middle of right now.
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