Thursday_le Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 This is a repost because the title it was under didnt fit. Read my other thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t92332/ This really sucks. I know ill keep NC going but ive narrowed it down to 4 things that I think could happen or is happening: 1. She is trying to completely forget me so she can move on. ( I doubt this one. You cant just forget about someone you were with for 2 years of your life.) 2. She will take several months and realize that she made a huge mistake and try to come back. I dont think I would let her come back so soon. I think it should take alittle longer to figure out what the both of us really want. ( I think this is more likely than 1 but I doubt it will happen. 3. She has feelings for another guy and will date him for maybe a year, then when it all falls down she will call me. ( I think this is what is happening. I hate that their may be another guy. Even though she said she doesnt want a relationship....her friendship with him may turn into something else. If she were to break up with him it would be horrible for her because they work together. But I dont care anymore what happens with her...as long as she is out of harms way and not dead.) 4. She could have been telling the truth about not wanting anyone right now and that shes just tired of doing everything for everyone and that she is tired of life, not suicidal. ( I want this to be the real reason but, I feel like this is just a cover up so she can let me go the least painful way. Maybe Im OVERANALIZING again.) Someone let me know which you think is really going on. Its a matter of opinion, but I want to hear it! Thx everyone and good luck to everyone is a breakup period.
superconductor Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 Thursday, it makes absolutely no difference what she means. Whether it's 1, 2, 3 or 4 is completely irrelevant. Your healing and growing is not predicated on what she means, what she thinks, what she does or doesn't do. She's out of your life. And living whilst looking in the rear view mirror is no way to move forward. So keep moving forward. Keep NC. That means no contact initiated by you, and no response if she makes first contact. None. Good luck.
gfto Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 5. She is no longer interested in you and most likely has already found your replacement.
Author Thursday_le Posted July 2, 2006 Author Posted July 2, 2006 true....but I think she is telling the truth about wanting to be alone and she doesnt want to deal with any relationship right now. I think its 4 now...I had a long talk with my mom. She said eventually she will realize that she messed up and we still could have something....she said it could take a year or two.
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