New gal Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 So I just started talking to my ex again. We were together 4 years and had no contact for a month. We finally talked yesterday and planned to hang out for a bit. He was very excited to see me, full of hugs and kisses, kept telling me how much he loves and misses me, and said he wants to be together. We agreed to work this out. We discussed what we did while apart. I said I had been going out with friends and met people, but it never went beyond just hanging out with them at the club or wherever. He said that he meet some people too. That he was hanging out with this girl that lives close, but it was nothing sexual. So when I was over yesterday we were having a great time and I asked if he wanted me to spend the night. He said not today because he has plans. He was going out on his bike, then for drinks, and then was going to crash over a friend’s house. I was surprised that he would choose staying out all night then to coming home to me if he really missed me that much... I told him how I felt about that... He said he was sorry, but that he made these plans a few days ago before we started talking again. So fine, when his friends showed up he gave me a kiss and we left at the same time. I have access to his satellite provider website since it is also in my name. I don’t think he knows about the web site since he doesn’t have a computer. This morning, I looked up his recent orders because I had a bad feeling that he might have been lying to me. He’s not one that ever stays out all night. I found that he ordered a movie on PPV last night! He never called like he usually would saying he ended up going home and invites me over, so now I’m really worried that he might be more then friends with this girl and had plans with her last night so lied to me?! He said he would call this morning, but hasn’t yet. It's almost 1pm. I’m not sure how to handle this if/when he does call. I’m not going to say I looked up his orders because that would make him mad. I could ask what he did yesterday, where he ended up staying… If he says blah blahs house… well, he did leave with mutual friends of ours yesterday, so I can say I heard he went home. And then see if he lies more? Nobody else has access to inside his house, so it was him that was home and that is a movie he mentioned before he wanted to see. Should I call him? I don’t want to chase him, but he did promise me to make it up to me, that we would hang out with our friends this weekend. I’m so aggravated and anxious to hear what he’s going to say… He sounded so sincere yesterday. I don’t get it.
Mary3 Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 So I just started talking to my ex again. We were together 4 years and had no contact for a month. We finally talked yesterday and planned to hang out for a bit. He was very excited to see me, full of hugs and kisses, kept telling me how much he loves and misses me, and said he wants to be together. We agreed to work this out. We discussed what we did while apart. I said I had been going out with friends and met people, but it never went beyond just hanging out with them at the club or wherever. He said that he meet some people too. That he was hanging out with this girl that lives close, but it was nothing sexual. So when I was over yesterday we were having a great time and I asked if he wanted me to spend the night. He said not today because he has plans. He was going out on his bike, then for drinks, and then was going to crash over a friend’s house. I was surprised that he would choose staying out all night then to coming home to me if he really missed me that much... I told him how I felt about that... He said he was sorry, but that he made these plans a few days ago before we started talking again. So fine, when his friends showed up he gave me a kiss and we left at the same time. I have access to his satellite provider website since it is also in my name. I don’t think he knows about the web site since he doesn’t have a computer. This morning, I looked up his recent orders because I had a bad feeling that he might have been lying to me. He’s not one that ever stays out all night. I found that he ordered a movie on PPV last night! He never called like he usually would saying he ended up going home and invites me over, so now I’m really worried that he might be more then friends with this girl and had plans with her last night so lied to me?! He said he would call this morning, but hasn’t yet. It's almost 1pm. I’m not sure how to handle this if/when he does call. I’m not going to say I looked up his orders because that would make him mad. I could ask what he did yesterday, where he ended up staying… If he says blah blahs house… well, he did leave with mutual friends of ours yesterday, so I can say I heard he went home. And then see if he lies more? Nobody else has access to inside his house, so it was him that was home and that is a movie he mentioned before he wanted to see. Should I call him? I don’t want to chase him, but he did promise me to make it up to me, that we would hang out with our friends this weekend. I’m so aggravated and anxious to hear what he’s going to say… He sounded so sincere yesterday. I don’t get it. Its entirely possible his buddies and him ordered a PPV movie. It does not mean he ordered one with the girl. But to ask him you are pretty much going to look like you snooped. Sometimes its better to just trust unless you have reason not to trust. Thats my take on this. Let this one go and see if he really tries to spend more time with you in the future.
ashnicole Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 I wouldn't judge anything right this second. Maybe he went home lastnight by himself, or with his buddies? If you don't trust him, then don't even try to be with him again... because all it's going to cause is heartache. I wouldn't question him about it, unless things keep "coming up" and he doesn't seem to be as sincere as he was a couple days ago. Let it go, see what else comes of this... if anything like it happens again, THEN see what needs to be done... but right now, it could all be innocent.
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