krispie Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 I met this guy last saturday and I admit we hit it off quite well after a couple of hours. He's got my interest and it turns out we're going to the same university together in 2 months. After that night, we exchanged MSN and phone #s.. and I'm wanting to hang out more with him but he tells me of a girl who he still has feelings for even after she told him that she just wants to be friends. They cleared out somethings and the girl wants to try it next time (like getting closer). We've gone out once after meeting on Saturday (it was monday, to the movies) and again, it was great. We had a lot to tallk about and had a lot of laughs. The only thing is, he lives in Mississauga while I live in Markham so him getting to Markham is somewhat a hassle.. We're going to Wonderland tonight to see the fireworks, just me and him and he's staying over at my place along with another couple. I'm starting to fall lfor this guy, I like hanging out with him and everything but with him still lliking the girl leaves me uncertain if I should go deeper or just be friends. I know he will not be going to same university as the girl but rather, we're moving into rez in September. Any thoughts on this ?
BrandonBP Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 I think he did a stand up thing by telling you up front how he feels. He's trying to let you know that he enjoys his time with you but that he's still in love with his ex. I'm in the same situation. I still love my ex, but I'm moving ahead with my life. I don't try to hide my feelings from anyone I'm dating, because I know damn well I'd go back to my ex in a split second. I don't want to be a huge jerk to some nice girl by dumping her, but if I've been truthful up front then it's not a total surprise should it happen.
Author krispie Posted July 2, 2006 Author Posted July 2, 2006 Sigh. We had such a good time yesterday, viewing fireworks and going on rides at wonderland. He got close with me a couple of times like me sleeping awfully close to him.. and how he took care of me when I was sick (drank too much). I still doubt that he likes me though because of his feelings for the other girl.
BrandonBP Posted July 3, 2006 Posted July 3, 2006 Well... Are you hot? My schedule is pretty open these days. Oh yeah, I'm still in love with MY ex and that'd put you right where you are already. Good luck with it. Just be the rebound and enjoy your time with him. Maybe he'll end up liking you more and he'll forget his ex. Maybe he won't but you can still sit back and enjoy everything right now if you try not to have any unrealistic expectations about his feelings.
Just Ed Posted July 6, 2006 Posted July 6, 2006 hi krispie... my suggestion would be to continue to hang out with him... because i believe that this gentleman likes you. try not to bring up the ex or compare yourself with his ex... but rather be yourselves in each other's company, letting him know just what a great person you are and how much fun you are to be with... after a month this good relationship, perhaps in august and even going into september... try this: make yourself not-so-available to him -- don't initiate phone calls or emails, reply with only short messages, telling him that you're busy, etc. make him miss you... and then once you two meet up again at university, i will bet that he will want to be with you even more . i hope this helps... and best wishes to you (from a fellow T.O. love-shacker), Ed
Author krispie Posted July 11, 2006 Author Posted July 11, 2006 Hey guys. thanks for alll ur advice. It turns out this guy did like me and he told me so but because of bad timing, he is with the girl now.. as in bf/gf. However, he told me yesterday that the first time he saw me, he wanted to get to know me and stuff. I asked him if it wasn't for his gf, would we have a chance together? and he said "yes maybe, i definitely thought about it, not gonna llie about it" I guess I'm just waiting at the sidelines right now.. waiting for my turn to play. I don't know if its a good thing but I STILL believe that something will happen between us. I'm going to see him A LOT more in September (more than his gf for sure) and I'm hoping something will come out of that.
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