joeyr812 Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 My wife issued a no contact to OM, who lives far away. He's still leaving messages and emails, all of which are being ignored. but...he's starting to make us nervous. Any creative advice on how to make the OM give up?
whichwayisup Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 Is the OM married as well? Or have a girlfriend? If so, BOTH of you together write him an email saying that if he contacts your wife again either by phone, emails, text messages or in person that you will intouch with his spouse. If he is married that ought to stop him in his tracks. How he is making you nervous? With threats or saying harmful things? I suggest that if it gets out of hand, go to the Police and get a restraining order against him. In the meantime, block his emails or get your wife to change her email address/instant messenger that way he can't reach her. Block his number on the phone and cell too. Hope this helps.
Author joeyr812 Posted July 1, 2006 Author Posted July 1, 2006 Thanks! OM is married. left a message that he's going to leave his wife and come here. that's what's got me nervous. I did talk to the police.
whichwayisup Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 Does his wife know about the affair? If not, TELL HER, and also print out ALL the emails he's sent just incase... What did the Police say? Stay safe, lock your doors and call 911 if he actually shows up at your door. He obviously is running on high emotions and not thinking clearly.
reservoirdog1 Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 Take off the gloves. Tell his wife. Let her put him through the wringer. He'll suddenly have a lot more on his plate and hopefully less time to contact your wife. Then, send him one more email: "If you contact either of us again, through any means, we will contact the police, seek legal advice, and obtain a restraining order against you. We will put up posters all over your neighbourhood about you. And we will send letters to everybody in your workplace." And then, if he doesn't stop, follow through on your threats.
silktricks Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 Take off the gloves. Tell his wife. Let her put him through the wringer. He'll suddenly have a lot more on his plate and hopefully less time to contact your wife. Then, send him one more email: "If you contact either of us again, through any means, we will contact the police, seek legal advice, and obtain a restraining order against you. We will put up posters all over your neighbourhood about you. And we will send letters to everybody in your workplace." And then, if he doesn't stop, follow through on your threats. It's best if it's your wife who sends the note -- or even tells him on the phone. He may be "coming" because he doesn't/won't believe that SHE really isn't interested any longer. If she's the one who says LEAVE US ALONE, that will improve the odds of him believing it.
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