Teacher's Pet Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 This is for those of you, like me, who are recently single..... Stop what you are doing. Take a moment, take a deep breathe. Honestly..... how do you feel? -tp
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 30, 2006 Author Posted June 30, 2006 I guess I'll start....... Today I finished bartending school (a refresher course, I was a bartender years ago and wanted to re-learn the craft)..... When I got back to my car after our mini "graduation party", I grabbed my phone and almost called HER to celebrate.... ...wait. We're not together anymore, and she probably doesn't even care. I felt OK until that moment. I still can't believe she's gone, so no, right now, I'm still an f'ing mess, and it's NOT getting any easier.... -tp
Pink Amulet Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 I feel much better than I ever thought I would after only a month out of a five year relationship... My mind doesn't just wander to thoughts of him anymore, and I don't bring him up in conversations... I have stopped comparing my life now to the life I had with him. This is a new chapter for me... I am excited (A dream about his marriage was rather upsetting upon waking up though! He told me in this dream, he was sorry for hurting me and he wished me true love. Maybe this was my own subconcious form of closure).
jerbear Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 It will get better as time goes on. There are those who come into our lifes and go away as quickly the next. Hang in there. Congrats on bartending school, now mix us some drinks dude! :lmao:
KittenMoon Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 Bleah. I'm low today, and this whole week, but it might be a hormonal thing. I'm in this really icky place right now. I have hope of him returning. What I don't have is hope or belief that he'll work as hard as would be needed. What an odd place to be.
allina Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 It's been a month, I think. I now realize that he was right, we would not have worked out in the long run. I know it's easier for me because this last relationship was not a very long one, but I have completely let go of any feelings for him. I see no reason to hate him or never speak to him again, we're on good terms, and I'm glad. So, to sum it all up, I'm happy, and I feel great
Jeannie428 Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 This is for those of you, like me, who are recently single..... Stop what you are doing. Take a moment, take a deep breathe. Honestly..... how do you feel? -tp I found out on Monday that my ex married the girl he cheated on me with. HE only knew her two months before he married her, I'm thinking she might be pregnant. I feel like I am in a fog. I dont even feel anything. I know they are not living together yet and are in different states... I just cant understand why he wouldn't tell me this. I talked to him two weeks ago and he made no mention of this. I don't understand. I feel like I just found out he cheated on me all over again. One thing I do know... I will never get involved with a military man ever again... he will never know how much he has torn my world apart.
Diver012 Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 I felt great until this afternoon. Then for some reason I got really sad. Ran into the Ex at work which I wasnt expecting but just ignored her. I turned around and just went about my business. Im ok I guess, its getting better.
trillium Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 Nearly one month with NC.... I'm fairly up today having stacked the weekend with plans. But I'm a bit apprehensive since the weekends have been the hardest so far. Starting to think about how to give myself closure without his help, I can't imagine he'll come back at this point. I'm starting to think why would I want him back.
AriaIncognito Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 Nearly one month with NC.... I'm starting to think why would I want him back. That's a good place to be actually. That's what I want. I want to not be pining over him. Worst thing is, I'm pretty sure he's still dealing with how it is he feels about me, and could even come back, and I have hope, but at the same time, I feel like I shouldn't because it's dumb to wait around on what ifs. I am trying to do things "for myself" but really, the only thing I seem to want to do, is figure out how to be with him. I know, I know, his decision. I don't intend to try to make up his mind for him, I just wish he'd make it up, so I'd know what direction I was going in. And yes, I realize I should just move on while he's deciding and if he comes back, great, if not, I'm more healed, but so far, my head and heart aren't working that way. We had some contact the other day, but it wasn't anything huge and I really know nothing more than I did, except for the fact that he's been depressed and is trying to figure things out (though he didnt' explicitly state he meant things with US so I can't assume that). Ugh. It's all so frustrating. I keep hoping that eventually, I'll just get so frustrated, that I'll no longer have feelings. So far, that's not happenin... I do plan on making myself do stuff this weekend though. If i don't, I'll sure sit here and be sad all weekend while the world goes on around me. Jennifer
simply_dani Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 I was doing pretty well but today just reading accidentally one of his emails just dragged me back to that feeling I felt when I learned it was over between us. I should be OK though, I know. Just trying to be positive and strong here.
trillium Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 That's a good place to be actually. That's what I want. .... I do plan on making myself do stuff this weekend though. If i don't, I'll sure sit here and be sad all weekend while the world goes on around me. Jennifer Well....it's a good place I'm starting to visit once in awhile. It depends on what day you catch me. Thursday was a fairly horrible day where I could barely function at work and was fighting with myself not to send a text message. It's all up and down. You're sounding a bit better yourself. Get out there and have some fun this weekend.
AriaIncognito Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 I wish I could honestly say I were better. I'm still blue. It still sucks. I had dreams about him last night (i love that, i apparently get NO breaks from thinking of him). I also hate going into this weekend without him. I always have loved the whole watching of fireworks with a special someone, but have hardly ever gotten that chance. I wish I were gonna be seeing some with him, and that's sad. Jennifer
jmars Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 Deep breath.... How am I feeling today? I'm not sure. My wife and I had lived under the stress of having a child (my step-daughter) with ADHD and a couple of other developmental challenges. I have been a stay at home father for the past 7 (of 8) years. Those were some very, very hard years. My pride suffered alot, as I was unable to live up to my expectations of myself as a father. So, on that end of things, I'm very happy to have some respite from the constant tug-o-war and bickering that has gone on around here. I finally have the strength to be the father I want to be toward the little girl. On the other end, to do with her mother and I, I have to say that I have felt ALOT worse after other past break-ups. This, even though I love my wife more than I ever have any other woman. I'm still hoping that my wife and I can mend the rift between us. Some days are great, some are not-so-great. I miss her. My kids want us together again. not necessarily under the same roof, but "together", emotionally and in terms of intimacy. As I grew up in a single parent household, I entirely empathize with how they are feeling and how they feel about the prospect of either their mom or dad dating some else. I'm just having a hard dealing with the mixed messages from their mom, and how "the spark" can supercede commitment to each others happiness and wellbeing. I mean, she has even said that the sex was great and that if she wants to have any she'll be knocking on my door. Here's me tearing my hair out.......but feeling alot less unhappy than I have been in past break-ups. Go figure. We live in a rational, logical universe?! What moron said THAT?!
jerbear Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 Took a short weekend trip. Wanted to ask a friend's single friend out. She asked me to find a job in the area. I think she is cute.
Guest Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 It's been 2 months since we've broken up and 2 weeks since we've last spoken to each other. I feel okay but not all that great, Life could be better but I have the choice to be happy or sad and depressed. Right now I'm choosing to be happy. Although, it's tough but I fight my sadness by ovecoming it with happy thoughts and keeping myself busy. At first I was in Denial thinking that he was going to come back but now I know that's never going to happen. All I have are the memories we experienced together but I decided to put that behind me and get on with my life. Love hurts but that's life you live and learn.
sickkitty Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 i feel like pooh 2day is very hard 4 me been running 2 the toilet at work all day crying!!! I dnt even no y im crying i really miss him and hate him at the same time it will be a month nxt fri and it still feels the same as it did 3 weeks ago......This sucks Amanda x
morphius Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 This is for those of you, like me, who are recently single..... Stop what you are doing. Take a moment, take a deep breathe. Honestly..... how do you feel? -tp S*it, Hopeless, depressed, Must be the tuesday blues! Morph
ButtonPusher Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 I feel worse than I did when I my pyscho bitch ex broke up with me a year and half ago. For most of last year I was too ****ed up to even think abotu dating other girls, and then when I was feeling better abotu life again this year, I emailed the fat cow to see how she was. She sounded happy and we emailed for a couple of weeks. She mentioned a guy she had gone out with for a bit last year, but they'd split up because he moved interstate. Well after telling her I thought it might be worth giving things a go between her and I again recently, she finally was honest tonight.....she keeps in touch with the loser once a week and sees him everytime hes in town. She didnt need to say that she was ****ing him. I want to cry but cant, my heart feels screwed all over again. What makes this worse is that its my fault I found out. I was getting on with my life and then...I go making contact again. I cant believe the s*it this bitch has put me through, in the relationship and out of it. I feel like 2.5 years of my life were stolen by her, with me trying to help her deal with a rape. Jesus christ, I'm staying well away from ****ed up women in the future, and I wish I could have this one wiped from my memory.
richardcruz Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 I feel like s**t. I 'm coping but I still feel numb with pain. I've been doing alot for myself like hitting the gym, but all of a sudden, thoughts of her will roll in causing me to get depressed. I know everyone says I shouldn't but I've taken her dumping me personal and it done a real number on my self esteem. Its day 16 of NC and deep down i know I will never hear from her again. The longer I've remained NC, the harder things have become. Oh well, I guess thats life.
Confuzzled85 Posted July 20, 2006 Posted July 20, 2006 Im not too sure how I'm feeling really, Its been 3 weeks, and we are going on holdiday as friends next week, its hard I wont lie and say its easy, but I guess I know deep down I will have to get on with things, Im doing things for myself that make me feel good going out with friends, going to the gym and eating healthy and all of these things make me feel good, I dont think about him constantley like I used to, but last nite I was led in bed and my phone went off, I really thought it would be him, guess not, It does suck but Im hoping it will get easier with more time? That or when were away Ill leave him there so I never have to see him again
confused423 Posted July 20, 2006 Posted July 20, 2006 life sucks without her, life sucked with her... she wants me back, i dont know what to say, i have kind of enjoyed my time off and away, maby ive moved on... but then again i think about her 100 times a day at least.... my name says it all...
Sonic_chaos Posted July 20, 2006 Posted July 20, 2006 Im also confused too. Miss her like mad, but im majorly annoyed with the way its been handled by her. Still think about her, i know its gonna be tough as this is the most ive felt i had a "connection" with someone. But then the walking on eggshells comes back and i think im better off without. Miss the drive down to her house, miss her accent, miss her family *her mum and dad was the best parents ive known*.. So theres more i miss then dont. Its not been long either so i admire the people thats gone over 1 month of NC. Im not even in my first week yet. And i go on vacation in 3 days so i just know i have to try and make the best of it, Even tho i dont wanna go. Ive deleted her number, msn contact and hidden her emails or email with her number on so at least i knew if she tried calling, But im almost sure she wont. just hope it stays that way as i dont think i could cope if she wanted to get back after id got my head right again. Just her name, the songs she used to play on her laptop that now play on the radio in the morning when i get up, make me think of her so yea its hard. maybe the vacation might give me the isolation away from the net, etc i need.. The very next day after break up i had to keep dashing into the toilets too, just to get myself right again after having the lump im my throat feeling.. Aint good
jerseydrive86 Posted July 20, 2006 Posted July 20, 2006 life sucks without her, life sucked with her... she wants me back, i dont know what to say, i have kind of enjoyed my time off and away, maby ive moved on... but then again i think about her 100 times a day at least.... my name says it all... Yo give it another shot man! You say you've moved on with your life so what do you got to lose? You never know what could happen; most relationships are better second time around, ya dig? You have my blessings:cool: !
Kengne Posted July 20, 2006 Posted July 20, 2006 Wow, there are alot of people feeling really really bad on here. I feel kinda bad saying that I feel - good. I'm at peace with myself, with my ex-bf, and with our recent breakup. I'm a very spiritual person, and I believe that people come into your life for a reason and for a season. When their part in my story is over, I am now able to let go gracefully. Because I know I cannot make someone stay who is not joined to me & vice versa. Maybe it's because I have a large network of friends & great social support system? They are wonderful, and always cheer me up if I'm feeling down & mucky. HugZ to everyone who is in pain. Please look after yourselves and know that this too, shall pass. K.
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