lebowski24 Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 So my gf dumped me about 7 weeks ago. For a variety of reasons, I somewhat "freaked out" when it happened and tried to get her to give it another chance. Then I successfully went through 2 weeks of no contact, after which I broke down and tried to get her to meet for lunch and unfortunately a couple more calls and emails followed, to which I received no response. But now I vowed to myself on Tuesday that I would stick with no contact. I even spotted her at a table outside the bar I was at last night with some friends (and think she saw me too) and didn't even go say hi or acknowledge that she was there. I'm to the point that even if she said she would want me back, I would (hopefully) say no because I can't allow her to keep jumping in and out of my life. So I'm all set there, but now I have this dilemma. Her birthday is coming up in a couple weeks. I'm not going to call or email because I don't want to spark emotions in myself that make me go crazy again. But what I was thinking of doing is stopping by the art museum and getting a birthday card with a painting from her favorite artist on the front. Inside, I would write something like, "Sorry for the temporary insanity. It won't happen again. Hope you have a fun and happy birthday." Is this a bad idea? I just want to let her know that I'm done acting crazy and I'm going to respect her wishes and not bug her any more about our relationship.
Pink Amulet Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 Then don't bug her and don't send her the card....
KittenMoon Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 I don't know if the idea is any good, but was her fav artist one that went crazy? Because that would be charmingly appropriate.
Author lebowski24 Posted June 30, 2006 Author Posted June 30, 2006 Ha, so are you saying that you don't think I should send it? I also think I'd feel bad if I didn't acknowledge her birthday. Last year I took her out to an awesome dinner and she said it was the first time in years she had had a good birthday because she never does anything and people don't really acknowledge it. Just thought it would give her some peace. I also don't want her last memory of me to be my email basically begging her to talk to me. That's my selfish reason, haha.
Winfield Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 I reckon it would be a bad idea. If her wish is "no contact", and you want to respect it, then observe her wish. I get the impression from your posts that she wouldn't appreciate the card. When you took her out last year, remember - it was last year, and things have changed between you both. Have you sent her the e-mail begging her to talk? If not, don't...but if you have, what's done is done...but, do you really think a card will make any difference (ie, an attempt to put things "right")? I think it's best you cut your losses with this woman now. She's blanked you before by not replying to your messages, so why continue banging your head against the "brick wall"? By not talking to you, and having told you she wishes no contact, she's telling you something loud and clear...
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