Guest Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 I am 23 and had a relationship with a guy 11 months younger for 4,5 years (with 3 breaks,because of silly reasons,of immaturity and age). Our last time was for 2 years, really nice. We broke up because as he said, I pushed him for future things (in the last months I'd say things like living together in 2-3 years etc..) and that I didn't live for the present which caused him pressure and that he made me sad because he couldn't give me what i wanted and that beacuse of our character differences and our fights (sometimes) he didn't see a good future. What can i do? It's been exactly 2 months. He is the one who left me. The thing is that i saw our future as smth normal, that would come so easy and naturally. I wasn't pressuring him like an hysteric! Sometimes, he was the one who talked about future, but not as often as I did. What can I say? I do the NC since our break up. I must add that we met once at a conference of our MBA's and 4 days after in order for him to return to me a book of mine, but we didn't talk about our situation. And smth else, he sent me an email (for the 1st time, we always talked through cell phone/sms) with some info about a project of mine *i had told him not to spent time on that, but he did* and he also wrote to this email that he has found in his room a book of mine and he will return it to me after the june exams (we are not at the same MBA programms in my city). And now i am wondering: why does he wait till mid july to give me the book and not sooner? our Mba's are connected with the train and are 5min. apart! He could also give my book to my best friend who lives really close to him, and he knows her well too. Some info about our future: We are both finishing our MBA's, I am going to search for a job and he is going to continue studies for a PhD. Is there a way to get him back again? We have both supported each other very much and as he said, I was very patient. U see, he is very much into university things, and we could meet only twice a week, the rest days we would talk on the phone. His family liked me and he would call me so many sweet names. I might have pressed him a bit about future, but i wasnt a b**ch! How could he break up with me? Because of our fights the last days..? Can you imagine that 4 days before the break up we searched for our summer vacation?? My question is what will happen when we meet for the return of my book in July? I really want him back, I love him very much. (Sorry for my English, I am from Europe)
Outcast Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 Don't expect him back. He told you the reasons why he thinks you're not a good pair and it seems to be true since you keep breaking up. There are plenty of guys that you'll probably get along better with so forget this one and go find one who truly appreciates you.
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