DeepDown Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 I have been in a LDR for the last 4 months. Although its LD this person had been a huge part of my life...we stay in constant contact all day and havent missed a day since our first meeting. The problem though is that i realize this person isnt healthy for me.....I was in a horrible abusive relationship for 14 years before this. I see many controling tendancies in this relationship. He is constantly mad at me and it seems nothing i do ever pleases him. I have developed feeling for him....i think I feel more attached to him than in love with him. I want to end things and have tried on a couple of different ocassions but I panic at the thought of feeling alone and fall right back into it. Can anyone suggest how I can break free of this? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. TIA
Guest Posted July 4, 2006 Posted July 4, 2006 Just take a step back, and realize that you don't need any of this! you don't need or want someone in your life who will treat you this way. If you think he'd listen to you, maybe you could talk to him...(although I've been in similar situations, and trying to talk about character flaws never went well). If you don't think you can talk him into being a better boyfriend, talk to some friends or a therapist about this- it helps. Finally, remember that being alone isn't as bad as it may seem. I was terrified for years of being alone, and now that I finally am, I realize there was nothing to be afraid of. Try to hold onto the positive things you associate with being single-- happiness, self-reliance, and freedom. I know it sounds silly, but write down the main points you want to make when you break up with this guy, because it sounds like he's going to make it difficult. Good luck!
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