Pink Amulet Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 After reading what I believe to be a rather shallow excuse for considering ending a relationship I was inspired to find out where everyone lays their uncrossable lines... -------- Huge deal-breakers - Infidelity (the next guy who cheats on me gets a kick in the balls) - Emotional Abuse (the slightest sign of controlling or cruel behaviour) - No ambition (whether to manager a super market or become a CEO) - Loses his sex drive (I realise this will fade with time, but I need sex often) - Becomes Overweight (this is a reflection on my personal feelings about eating habbits and excercise [i am very active and adventurous]) - Doesn't like Animals (what kind of sicko doesn't like animals ) (Please remember everyones deal-breakers are their personal feelings only and do not reflect on what should be acted upon in your relationship...)
magichands Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 what about lying and deceipt? No way?! I thought you were going to say, "Wanting to get married." Only jesting!!!! P.S. Have you corrected people's spelling mistakes before? If so, then it's deceit. Unless you want a receipt for the deceit, I guess.
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 30, 2006 Author Posted June 30, 2006 what about lying and deceipt? I guess I will just shove that one in with 'emotional abuse'
Outcast Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 Well other than the obvious ones; no murderers, child-rapers, addicts etc. Deceit is numero uno. I'd rather an unpleasant truth than someone BS me. Because I always know. Sports addicts bore me. So do people who 'don't read a newspaper' If you're not interested in what's going on on your planet, you're one big yawnfest IMHO.
cuddlycuddlebum Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 If they do not like to cuddle. Or if they are a firefighter, of course!
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 30, 2006 Author Posted June 30, 2006 So do people who 'don't read a newspaper' If you're not interested in what's going on on your planet, you're one big yawnfest IMHO. *adds to list* I guess smaller things would make me reconsider taking the relationship further too... Smoking, Looking in the mirror more than me, Not looking at me when I am speaking, He does what ever his mummy tells him too His cleanliness isn't up to par
Outcast Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 Not looking at me when I am speaking, OK, now that's high maintenance. What if he's frying bacon or driving?
magichands Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 He does what ever his mummy tells him too What??!! When is that supposed to stop?!
Curmudgeon Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 There are only two, infidelity and any kind of abuse.
Curmudgeon Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 Hate to say it but I think these are rather shallow: - Loses his sex drive (I realise this will fade with time, but I need sex often) - Becomes Overweight (this is a reflection on my personal feelings about eating habbits and excercise [i am very active and adventurous]) - Doesn't like Animals (what kind of sicko doesn't like animals ) Given the first two he'd better never get old, sick or disabled and/or never need certain types of medication to stay alive because if he does, you're gonna leave him. As for the last one, if he didn't like animals you shouldn't have been in a relationship with him in the first place and heaven forbid he has or develops alergies. Unconditional love this ain't!
magichands Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 There are only two, infidelity and any kind of abuse. Ahhh... true love. Like that Bridget Jones - loved just the way you are. Might be a problem if they get banged up for a decade or two. Maybe file that one under "abandonment."
jerbear Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 *adds to list* I guess smaller things would make me reconsider taking the relationship further too... Smoking, Looking in the mirror more than me, Not looking at me when I am speaking, He does what ever his mummy tells him too His cleanliness isn't up to par I got one assigned to me by birth, getting one in law when marrying, then that is all I need is another one after the birth of a child. I like my mummy, without her there would not be me! Just wait till you become someone's mummy! Great, I was about to offer you a ticket to visit the Fabulous Las Vegas to see a show, too!! :lmao: For me it would be: Where are we going as in what do you want to do when you grow upHow does she think, does she think?To much dependency on meDesire to have children, must want a kid even if it is an adoptionBe an educated woman (BS degree minimum: shallow but had my fill of diploma girls, they are stuck in High school. :rolleyes: )
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 30, 2006 Author Posted June 30, 2006 Curmudgeon- Haha, I knew this would happen I even put a disclaimer. This is about being honest with our own personal feelings. Of course if reasons were beyond his controll this would be a different case (I was going to mention this factor). I blade, I climb, I ski, I snowboard, I hike, I ride, I kayak, and not just on ocassion. These are things I do all the time. These are my passions. It is terribly important that I can share this life style and these passions with my partner. If he was partaking in these things with me (these interests would most likely be what brought us together) and then decided he couldn't be bothered anymore (laziness) I would be lonely again. I need a very close and active partnership. IF it was reasons beyond his control (illness, injury etc.) it would be a completely different story. I love animals, I also volunteer PR services for the RSPCA (Royal Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals) as well as often fostering kittens, ferrets, puppies, birds, mice, rats etc. in my home for weeks at a time. If I found out he didn't like animals, he would probably leave me first! Also remember, these "shallow" things would be found out quickly- most likely before love was felt... (I am speaking more in terms of dating someone).
Tim'sAngel Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 InfidelityIf we are not compatible (not sure what the singular word for that is)DeceitAbuse of any kindNeglet towards my son
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 30, 2006 Author Posted June 30, 2006 InfidelityIf we are not compatible (not sure what the singular word for that is)DeceitAbuse of any kindNeglet towards my son Incompatibility They all sound like very good reasons.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 Incompatibility You know, I thought thats what it was... but wasn't sure and didn't feel like looking it up... but thanks for clearing that up.
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 30, 2006 Author Posted June 30, 2006 Okay what about the past? Someone must have stop seeing someone for a seemingly insignificant reason knowing it just wouldn't work...
Tim'sAngel Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 InfidelityIf we are not compatible (not sure what the singular word for that is)DeceitAbuse of any kindNeglet towards my son Neglect***
Tim'sAngel Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 Two more: RespectAppreciative Those are the deal breakers?? Gee... I'd hate to be your gf!!
jerbear Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 Those are the deal breakers?? Gee... I'd hate to be your gf!! In the bedroom is one thing. I will still appreciate and respect her tomorrow morning. I had a GF who would expect me to do stuff and when I do things above and beyond including "extras" not talking sex. She would just mosy on and does not appreciate what I do. She would pull the gf card against emergency family issues. In regards to respect, their opiniones would be forced upon me, even if they suggest it or keep on saying "you like it" I would say no as in I do not like it. I respect others opinions but don't disrespect mine just because I disagree or present a different view. One even didn't like my parents and I said she has to respect them because they are my parents and elders. So beig my gf is pretty easy, I can tolerate some things but not constant issues.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 Well, the name of the thread was "Deal breakers" and you seemed to have posted positive "Deal makers".
phyrespryte Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 This is going to sound really strange...but heart shaped necklaces are a deal breaker. Everytime I've gotten one of those the relationship usually ended about a month later.
jerbear Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 Got me thinking... the ones that gave me polo shirts ended pretty quick 1-3 months later. Gues it is just a coincidence. :eek: The ones that didn't the relationship would slowly drift.
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