alphamale Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 I ended the (short) relationship. you should have ended it AFTER you smashed her skull in with a baseball bat!
Jadey Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 lol, I'd say I'm probably emotionally high maintenance!! Oh well. If you love me...I'm worth it, warts and all, right?
vi_pn_babe25 Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 I love being high maintenance though, it's just who I am I guess. I LOVE fashion. Like 1 time I went to a MLB game wearing high heels and all my friends thought I was crazy, but I just wanted to look cute, you never know who you might meet! And plus sometimes guys like that "barbie" type, usually the really hot ones...but you have to be careful!
HokeyReligions Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 I easily fall in to these 3 categories, but I think most women do as well. I can't think of a female friend that has less than 3 purses. Me. I have one. When it wears out I replace it. Mom always had two - one for summer and one for winter. More than that she said was pretentious. Actually, I think I do have a second purse for evening. Of course, dragging it along the highway and running over it when I want a new one doesn't count!
Pink Amulet Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 And plus sometimes guys like that "barbie" type, usually the really hot ones...but you have to be careful! ... you sure do have to becareful. In fact I would rather someone who wasn't attracted to me. They seem like quality guys "Excuse me do you find me attractive?" "Not particulary" "Perfect. Would you like to get a coffee?"
Trimmer Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 I think those are the "superficial" high maintence types. I've had female friends who would go out of their way to prove they weren't like what you just described, but they were incredibly HIGH maintence in all other respects. Even as a friend they were high maintence. This raises an interesting question - I think that high maintenance isn't just a "guy thing" about women. Women - haven't you had friends who seem to suck up more than their share of energy in their relationship with you? I'm pretty sure I've heard women other than Walk mention this... Allina, forgive me if I'm veering the topic a little bit, but I would be interested in whether many women have had the experience of having a "high-maintenance" female friend, vs. how many men have felt that way about a male friend. My guess (but it's only a guess - that's why I'm asking...) is that this would be more common among women - but maybe that's just because I think mens' friendships with other men tend to be generally less emotionally based... Allina - I'm curious what brought this to mind... Did Tanbark call you this at some point last night?
confused423 Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 ive got another question, is the opposite of "high maintanance" ......"down to earth"
vi_pn_babe25 Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 ... you sure do have to becareful. In fact I would rather someone who wasn't attracted to me. They seem like quality guys "Excuse me do you find me attractive?" "Not particulary" "Perfect. Would you like to get a coffee?" You're right because actually the "quality guys" aren't usually attracted to the high maintenance girls. The guys that are...usually just want them as a trophy...just like Yamaha said. And that's unfortunate but that's just the way we're wired
Pyro Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 You're right because actually the "quality guys" aren't usually attracted to the high maintenance girls. The guys that are...usually just want them as a trophy...just like Yamaha said. And that's unfortunate but that's just the way we're wired Not anymore. I was once attracted to the high maintenance type. Hell, we dated for a year and a half, but it didn't work out. With the high maintenance came high maintenance emotionally. Since that bad experience, I have not been attracted to that type. All that I ask for is some form of attraction and an incredible personality.
vi_pn_babe25 Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 ive got another question, is the opposite of "high maintanance" ......"down to earth" Well I consider myself "high maintenance" to some extent, BUT I can also be "down to earth" at the same time if that makes sense lol. Meaning: "don't judge a book by it's cover"
Outcast Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 There seems to be a subculture in femaledom of women who think men exist to serve them and that they are somehow princesses who are to be kept happy at all cost. You see it in posters who whine on and on about how their partners are not making them happy by devoting every minute, glance, and dollar to them but never mention or discuss how to make their partners happy.
vi_pn_babe25 Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 Not anymore. I was once attracted to the high maintenance type. Hell, we dated for a year and a half, but it didn't work out. With the high maintenance came high maintenance emotionally. Since that bad experience, I have not been attracted to that type. All that I ask for is some form of attraction and an incredible personality. It can be true about being emotionally high maintenance, and usually that stems from being spoiled as a child. We learn from what we were given or surrounded by (enviornment) That's why I said it's how we're wired.
vi_pn_babe25 Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 I'm not saying it's a good thing really, it's just who we are, everyone's different.
Pyro Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 It can be true about being emotionally high maintenance, and usually that stems from being spoiled as a child. We learn from what we were given or surrounded by (enviornment) That's why I said it's how we're wired. She was spoiled but at the same time, she was very insecure. She was a beautiful woman and I loved her so, but she never even tried to trust me in return, so it was a disaster. I am not sure how she ended up that way.
confused423 Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 Well I consider myself "high maintenance" to some extent, BUT I can also be "down to earth" at the same time if that makes sense lol. Meaning: "don't judge a book by it's cover" so basically we are all high and low maintainance concerning different aspects of our character.
vi_pn_babe25 Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 She was spoiled but at the same time, she was very insecure. She was a beautiful woman and I loved her so, but she never even tried to trust me in return, so it was a disaster. I am not sure how she ended up that way. I can understand why she had a hard time with trust, because I also have a hard time trusting guys. She could've ended up that way because of how she grew up, the friends she hung out with, or even guys that she's dated in the past.
Pyro Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 I can understand why she had a hard time with trust, because I also have a hard time trusting guys. She could've ended up that way because of how she grew up, the friends she hung out with, or even guys that she's dated in the past. I have no idea about her friends influences on her, but she always claimed that she had no trust issues with her exes. It could have been out of guilt. Maybe she had cheated on someone in the past and was worried about karma. It was sad because we could have had something good going. I am one of the easiest people to get along with. I tried my best to work with her but I was young and inexperienced then, so I didn't have much to work with.
vi_pn_babe25 Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 so basically we are all high and low maintainance concerning different aspects of our character. Well I think you can take pride in yourself and at the same time be a genuine, giving person I love to be fashionable maybe to the point of "looking" like a snob, but once you get to know me as a person, you'll learn that I'm the kinda person that geniunely cares for other people's feelings and well being before myself
vi_pn_babe25 Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 I have no idea about her friends influences on her, but she always claimed that she had no trust issues with her exes. It could have been out of guilt. Maybe she had cheated on someone in the past and was worried about karma. It was sad because we could have had something good going. I am one of the easiest people to get along with. I tried my best to work with her but I was young and inexperienced then, so I didn't have much to work with. She probably ended on bad terms with her last ex, which might explain that she had a hard time trusting ANY guy after that, not necessarily you. Well if she did cheat on anyone, then she probably wouldn't have been a good catch anyways And plus you were both young like you said. Also I believe everyone has trust issues whether they admit it or not.
Pyro Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 She probably ended on bad terms with her last ex, which might explain that she had a hard time trusting ANY guy after that, not necessarily you. Well if she did cheat on anyone, then she probably wouldn't have been a good catch anyways And plus you were both young like you said. Also I believe everyone has trust issues whether they admit it or not. I guess that I may not or ever know the real truth if their is that. I agree that if she did cheat in the past, then she didn't deserve me. I also agree that everyone, whether they admit to it or not, has some sort of trust issues.
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