allina Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 What is that phrase supposed to mean? I have heard a lot of men say they don't like that quality in women. I have also had guys say to me "you're really cool, but when I first met you I thought you would be one of those high maintenance chicks." My male roomie said that he would make that judgement about me from looking at my room and bathroom. I think that's sort of harsh What's this high maintenance thing all about??
Cecelius Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 It means: 1. Financially high maintenence -- ie, a gold differ (rare other than Anna Nicole Smith types, but can creep up like the stay at home mom who begins to assume that the money is there to permit her free time, not because husband works hard, sense of entitlement. Dudes start looking for signs of laziness early on). 2. Emotionally high maintenence - requires a huge amount of time spent together, assumes you want it too, believes there are problems if you just need to run to the grocery store without her, needs to talk feelings (in rare cases, high maintence also means low self esteem, which means cheater waiting to happen)Can manifest itself as bitchiness.
Buttaflyy Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 I think it's supposed to apply to how you care for yourself. As if, you are meticulous about your make-up, clothes, grooming etc. Some guys say this negatively in the sense that you are expensive to be with, or you might not wanna let your hair down and just have fun. To me, it's a compliment. I've been called this before, and I love the fact that it's noticed how much pride I have in my appearance. I think that sense I am spending my own money it shouldn't matter. If someone might consider a "HMC" to be a gold digger than that doesn't apply to me, so I'm not bothered by the phrase.
johan Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 You're a high-maintenance woman if you suck up a lot of extra energy from the guy, forcing him to do things, pay for things, say things, etc. not for the benefit of the relationship, but simply because that's how you are and that's how you want it. You may not be directly affecting him, but it could just be that the level of upkeep you apply to yourself is also in excess of what is really required and causes him to adjust his schedule and priorities. And you think the benefit he receives in return is your stunning presence, and that should be enough. Some guys can afford high maintenance women. Some guys can't or choose not to.
johan Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 Good Question............??!!! Ha ha. If you have to ask, you probably are a high-maintenance woman.
blind_otter Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 IME all women are high maintenece in some way or another. Even the ones who are studiously not high maintenence. They just hide it better and it takes longer to find out what they need.
magichands Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 I really have no idea, but that won't stop me from commenting. My guess is that it's colloquial for the amount of "effort" one has to put in to "sustain" the relationship, or possibly the amount of resources (=money) one might need to "keep her happy." Love is a decision; love might be hard work sometimes... but high maintenance is a term best applied to cars, not chicks. Cars and chicks. Totally different things, right? I mean, you don't even need to warm cars up before you drive them.
johan Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 ...but high maintenance is a term best applied to cars, not chicks. Cars and chicks. Totally different things, right? Hmm... That's going to require some thought...
Touche Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 Yeah, cars and "chicks" - exact same thing. No wonder some men can't get women! They don't understand them!
Author allina Posted June 29, 2006 Author Posted June 29, 2006 It means: 1. Financially high maintenence -- ie, a gold differ (rare other than Anna Nicole Smith types, but can creep up like the stay at home mom who begins to assume that the money is there to permit her free time, not because husband works hard, sense of entitlement. Dudes start looking for signs of laziness early on). 2. Emotionally high maintenence - requires a huge amount of time spent together, assumes you want it too, believes there are problems if you just need to run to the grocery store without her, needs to talk feelings (in rare cases, high maintence also means low self esteem, which means cheater waiting to happen)Can manifest itself as bitchiness. See, this in no way can be said about me. I have my own money, I don't expect men to buy me sh*t. If I go out I offer to pay my half, if I'm out for drinks or something and he gets us a round, I'll get the next. I'm also not needy, if I'm with someone I give them space and all that stuff.
Author allina Posted June 29, 2006 Author Posted June 29, 2006 Ha ha. If you have to ask, you probably are a high-maintenance woman. Hey!
Asafan Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 It means: can creep up like the stay at home mom who begins to assume that the money is there to permit her free time, not because husband works hard, sense of entitlement. Dudes start looking for signs of laziness early on). 2. Emotionally high maintenence - requires a huge amount of time spent together, assumes you want it too, believes there are problems if you just need to run to the grocery store without her, needs to talk feelings (in rare cases, high maintence also means low self esteem, which means cheater waiting to happen)Can manifest itself as bitchiness. OMG. You just described my wife in great detail.
Pink Amulet Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 Hmmm, I guess I am high maintenance! But hey... I'm worth it hahaha (typically high maintenance thing to say right? )
Pink Amulet Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 Also, add to that list- Requires a lot of affection and attention eg. "If I am in the room, I want you to make sure you appreciate it"
Buttaflyy Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 It means: 1. Financially high maintenence -- ie, a gold differ (rare other than Anna Nicole Smith types, but can creep up like the stay at home mom who begins to assume that the money is there to permit her free time, not because husband works hard, sense of entitlement. Dudes start looking for signs of laziness early on). 2. Emotionally high maintenence - requires a huge amount of time spent together, assumes you want it too, believes there are problems if you just need to run to the grocery store without her, needs to talk feelings (in rare cases, high maintence also means low self esteem, which means cheater waiting to happen)Can manifest itself as bitchiness. If this is the true meaning. The next person to call me this is getting slapped!
tanbark813 Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 "Camping? Ewww, I don't know. What if the bugs get in my makeup bag? They have places to plug in my hair dryer and curling iron right? What kind of restaurants are nearby? I only eat organic, soy-based, kosher dishes cooked by virgins. Now drop me off at the salon and pick me up in 3 hours."
Pink Amulet Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 "Camping? Ewww, I don't know. What if the bugs get in my makeup bag? They have places to plug in my hair dryer and curling iron right? What kind of restaurants are nearby? I only eat organic, soy-based, kosher dishes cooked by virgins. Now drop me off at the salon and pick me up in 3 hours." :lmao: Well, I am about to go and climb and camp in the mountains of NZ so I am not one of those females!
magichands Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 "Camping? Ewww, I don't know. What if the bugs get in my makeup bag? They have places to plug in my hair dryer and curling iron right? What kind of restaurants are nearby? I only eat organic, soy-based, kosher dishes cooked by virgins. Now drop me off at the salon and pick me up in 3 hours." Yes, dear. Whatever you want, dear. Three bags full, dear. (Thinking to self, "Wow... I get a whole 3 hours without her in my earhole!")
Buttaflyy Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 "Camping? Ewww, I don't know. What if the bugs get in my makeup bag? They have places to plug in my hair dryer and curling iron right? What kind of restaurants are nearby? I only eat organic, soy-based, kosher dishes cooked by virgins. Now drop me off at the salon and pick me up in 3 hours." This is what I figured it meant!! To an extent! That's not so bad is it??
Author allina Posted June 29, 2006 Author Posted June 29, 2006 "Camping? Ewww, I don't know. What if the bugs get in my makeup bag? They have places to plug in my hair dryer and curling iron right? What kind of restaurants are nearby? I only eat organic, soy-based, kosher dishes cooked by virgins. Now drop me off at the salon and pick me up in 3 hours." Ewwww I'd want to slap her. Though I admit that I have worn makeup camping before not a lot, but I have
alphamale Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 bitchiness. that pretty much sums it up in one word...
Pink Amulet Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 Ewwww I'd want to slap her. Though I admit that I have worn makeup camping before not a lot, but I have I do when I climb with my fathers Army groups
MarnieGirl Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 I really have no idea, but that won't stop me from commenting. My guess is that it's colloquial for the amount of "effort" one has to put in to "sustain" the relationship... i laughed at the first part. i agree with the second.
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